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I know it is hard, extremely hard.
When I was at my heaviest and saw my parents for the first time in several years. The first words out of my mom's mouth was "Angel how big you have gotten". Not "I am so glad to see you" or "Come here and give me a hug".
Anyway, I let it wash over, couple of hours later I sat my mom down. And told her, firmly/directly, I am an adult and my weight is my issue. Not hers. It is up to me to resolve the problem not her. And I would appreciate her not talking about it. She understood what I was saying.
But since, she tries to indirectly guide me, like oh so and so lost a lot of weight they did x,y,z and it just came off. Or when going out to eat, she will qualify what she is going to eat and why like that will help me to understand the concept of eating.
My older sister has also reminded her when I come visit no weight comments.
They are 16 hours away from me.
Either way I know it comes from a loving place, as well as, obsessive place of how one looks. She has done a couple of mean passive aggressive things to me when I was younger about my looks and weight. That you wonder how could someone call that love.
But I agree with Nancy, getting out from under their roof would be good and ease tensions.
Some of issues maybe because you are living at home. Meaning he is harping on your weight more so than normal because you are at home and he doesn't want to say get out.
But I also would start putting your foot down. And if it is brought up tell him. While you appreciate his caring about you, this is something you need to conquer on your own. And that the weight and the low carb diet is not up for discussion.
And when he talks about it. Just remind him, say I know you love me and care about me, but I don't wish to discuss this with you, and if he continues give him a hug say I love you and walk away.
Eventually he will get the point on that.
If he is worrying about you, he is loving you in his own way.
I wish you luck