Integrating Our WOE Into Our WOL
I've been thinking a bit lately on the difference between this WOE (way of eating) versus low-carb as a WOL (way of life). And as I approach the end of the fifth year of maintaining my initial 100 lb weight loss in 2003/2004, I've been thinking about what has made that weight loss maintenance possible and how my life has changed in the past 6 years.
I loved Melissa's distinction (posted in another thread) that this is a WOE for her, not a WOL. That's how I feel as well, but I don't want to imply that changing my WOE hasn't drastically altered my WOL as well. They've both changed, but how I live isn't only defined by how I eat so they aren't exactly the same.
Before I started low-carbing, I had a WOL that was very unhealthy but pretty predictable. On the way into work in the morning, I stopped at the donut shop and got a muffin and/or a donut for breakfast (usually *and*). For lunch, I went out to a fast food place and had a large combo of some sort. I generally stopped at a convenience store on the way back from lunch to buy an afternoon snack or snacked from the cookies & candy kept in our office pantry. For dinner, I either went out to dinner, ordering whatever sounded best to me, not concerning myself with what was healthiest. Or I ordered in delivery food, or I stopped at the grocery store and bought what I wanted for dinner. I didn't cook much, but I'd make pasta or sandwiches or something that sort of resembled real food usually, but I'd always buy something for my other meal - chips, cookies, candy, chocolate or ice cream, or a combination of any or all.
One of the things that I think made a huge difference to my success when I started low-carbing was that, at first, I didn't have to change that routine much. In the mornings, I stopped at the grocery store instead of the donut shop and bought sliced deli meat and sliced cheese and made rollups at my desk for breakfast. For lunch, I went to a fast food restaurant and bought a combo with a salad instead of fries and threw away the bun on the burger. I'd either have more rollups for an afternoon snack, or stop and buy some cheddar and have sliced cheddar for an afternoon snack at work. For dinner, I either went out and ordered low-carb at the restaurant or stopped at the grocery store and bought bagged salad and a rotisserie chicken. I also bought nuts or turkey pepperettes or some other low-carb snack to eat for a snack at night. And all the way along, I ate low-carb candy & chocolate to satisfy my sweet tooth.
I changed my WOE, but not my WOL. I changed how I ate, but didn't change who I was (a sweets-loving, fairly lazy person uninterested in cooking and too much diet prep). I think changing both at once would have been too hard on me and would have set me up for failure.
The interesting thing is that as time went on, my WOL changed. I started cooking more to have different things to eat. I started bringing my breakfast & lunch from home more often because I could get better variety that way (and boy, do those fast food salads ever taste awful, almost metallicy, I never enjoyed them). I started to exercise after about 6-9 months because I wanted to support my weight loss. I started moderating the sweets to help the weight loss along. Eventually, I got to where I was a good LC girl after all, following the LC WOL. I think as time went by, my WOE was incorporated as a permanent part of my WOL and I think that is the cornerstone of my success. Over time, who I am has changed so that my LC WOE is part of who I am. Eating off plan, while still far too easy, far too tasty and far too tempting, also doesn't feel like "me" as much anymore. Take me to a restaurant and I'm more likely to want a steak than a pasta dish now.
I just think it was important for me to integrate LC into my life, not to try to change my life to be something it wasn't. Sure, the food had to change. And really, in the end, so did the other behaviours like spending all my money on eating out and not exercising and not planning ahead and such, but all that didn't need to happen on the first day of LC to be successful. In the long run, I wonder if I wasn't more successful because I didn't do it the "WOL" way.
I understand this was "my way" and that others have had success with drastic, sudden changes to WOE & WOL at the same time. I just wanted to offer a view to a different way, where we integrate our new WOE into our real lives, instead of feeling we have to change our fundamental personality in order to lose weight.
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