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Originally Posted by foxgluvs
Hiya, I agree. I never use the fat word around my three year old twins, I don't think it's productive or helpful. I remember feeling terrible once when a friend reffered to her son and fatty....I thought why the heck put that thought into his tiny mind?? I told her off at the time and vowed that when I had kids they would never hear that from me, even if they did grow up to be a little bit rounder than the norm. The thing is, we can so easily create problems with our children with thoughtless comments.
My girls are educated in eating nice healthy foods, they get sweets or chocolate on special occasions or if we are in an environment where other kids are eating that kind of thing, which happens to be less than once per week. I think sweets should be an occasional thing and not like some folk use them as a bribe every day or a reward for good behaviour 3 or 4 times a day like my friend uses them.
Good post and you made some very valid points.
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What really gets me is when a
fat mom calls their overweight child those names. Hello! First of all it's never helpful to verbally abuse someone to get them to do something food for them, least of all a
child who does not yet have the logical capacity to make decisions for himself. Second of all, if your child is overweight, and YOU are overweight, odds are the foods
you yourself are eating, and feeding your own child are the reason he's fat. Meaning, don't call HIM fatty... look in the mirror and call YOURSELF a negligent mother. Your poor eating habits and neglectful diet is the reason you both have weight problems.
I've a cousin like that, she is obviously carb sensitive and so is her young son, she always is down on him about his weight but she NEVER helps him. All she lets him eat is fruit and starch (shes convinced he's allergic to everything else, and the few "good" food she will let him eat, like veggies and salads, she doesn't buy). He's too little to do anything about it on his own. He can't buy his own food, or really educate himself on how to eat. She put him on a diet once, and he was losing weight, but he wanted so badly to please her and lose weight that he started under eating and as a result he fainted one day. She got scared and of course took him off the diet, but you know, the diet wasn't the problem. The problem was her son
felt so bad about himself because of the names she calls him that he resorted to under eating to lose weight faster.
It just makes me so upset to think about it.
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