I just read a post by someone saying that her 3 year old already knew that
candy can make you fat.
I just had to go somewhere and kinda share my thoughts on the "fat" topic. I avoid using the word around my children and let them know in no uncertain terms that large size is referred to as big....which pretty much encompasses any adult and is alot less hurtful when used. I also let them know that, once someone is an adult, they can eat anything they want whenever they want ...and that some people like to eat things that other people dont. They (after more than a year of exposure to my conversations with others), still dont know that LCing is about weight loss for me. They simply think that carbs upset my stomach. They've been told that a "diet" is simply the type of food someone chooses to eat....not that it's about weight loss. So, yes...mommy is on a diet...but so is everyone else in the world, including them.
Why do I approach it this way?
Because I've been the recipient of looks, and laughs, and wayward little children's comments (and no...I dont blame them for having commented on my weight...they certainly didnt know any better). Regardless of intent, comments about weight to those who are sensitive are going to hurt.
I'm not saying that it's bad for a child to view candy as something to be used sparingly. I tell my own children that it can hurt your teeth and make you sick if you have too much. I simply think that people who have children...especially those who know what it feels like to be self conscious about weight...ought to find ways to educate their children a bit more carefully.
It's not about older children who already know what's appropriate and what isnt...it's about the little guys, who need to be guided and taught some tact. A young child
will say to someone eating a candy bar.... "dont you know that candy bars make you fat?" Not a big deal, maybe, to a thin person....but maybe enough to bring a sensitive overweight person to the verge of tears.
My kids know that candy bars are treats and eaten rarely...but it would never dawn on them to comment to someone eating one. They'd simply think it was that person's time for a special treat (regardless of their size). My 3 yr old might say..."dont eat too many or you might get sick"...I can live with that.
Beats the heck out of "ya know...that'll make you fat".
Cant we just teach kids that
minimizing the junk food is a healthy way to eat instead of telling them that too much makes you
fat.
They grow up and are exposed to society's prejudices quickly enough...why start them down that road as toddlers.
Sorry...just had to vent a bit. Done now.