Oooh.. interesting comments from everyone.
I don't have any advice or suggestions, just wanted to share a few thoughts that came to mind when I read the original post.
First of all, I actually relate to both sides of the situation. Before LC'ing, I'd be out with my guy (who's a skinny bugger if there ever was one
) and want some kind of a treat... perhaps McDonald's for dinner, or to stop for an ice cream. It would actually make me really annoyed when he'd say he wasn't hungry, but to go ahead and he'd keep me company.
I know it wasn't logical, but there were a few factors at play. Part of it is the guilt... if I'm eating something bad for me, someone's in it too
It also makes it more of an "occasion" , or a "date" rather than just me pigging out on foods that I knew I shouldn't have. I've always associated food and meals with "occasions", or used it to celebrate, or feel good, and it made me upset that he didn't share that. It would also make me really self-concious, and this was a really big part of it for me - I mean, I would imagine everyone around me thinking "no wonder she's overweight... they're not even out for a meal and she couldn't keep from eating" ... or something along those lines. I'd snap at him when he'd say he didn't want anything, and if he asked why, I'd rather put a gun to my head than admit that I was too embarassed to sit there and eat alone. (Actually, not that much fun to actually put that in writing
). It was all very complicated in my head, and it wasn't something that had anything to do with my guy at all really, and I'd have been horrified to realize that it was putting that much pressure on him or making him that upset. But things about food and weight and dieting tend to be so self-consuming, that we rarely realize what an effect it's having on others. It's all some big ball of related ickyness inside
On the other hand, since staring to LC in September, I haven't had anything off-plan at all. There's been people in my life who can't understand that - who say one day won't hurt, and try just a bit. I've been fortunate in that my guy isn't one (he's amazingly supportive, and has even learned a bit.... he's always been so thin he hasn't the slighted idea of what foods are good and what foods arent :P He's also really sweet about picking up new LC treats or books when he sees them and bringing them home - though it did take quite a lot of "no, I can't have that because...." conversations when I started
), but I've also been really firm - eating something off plan simply isn't an option for me since one bite will lead to a million for me.
For those occasions where I'm tempted, or where something special is happening, I have my own treats. LC chcocolate bars are kept on hand to keep me sane while the office is eating ice cream birthday cakes, and I make my own LC desserts for family get togethers. I've found most people tend to get over it when you simply say no, and don't try and debate it or explain it. It's just the way it is. Someone as close to you as your wife makes it a lot more difficult. What about planning indulgences that let you both feel naughty? Order in a pizza for your wife, and indulge in some LC goodies that you usually wouldn't allow (LC cheesecake, ice cream, chocolate bars, pastas, breads... not sure what your usual menus are like) - perhaps the idea of "being bad together" would be enough to share that guilty pleasure. (Plus, finishing off with splenda-sweetened whipped cream always gives you a happy ending to an evning
)
Cute side note... my office is big on birthday cakes on birthday's. I was half dreading having them get me one too and then say the "it's just one day". Well mine just passed, and instead of a cake, one of the girls got me a LC breakfast bagel (bagel with egg, bacon and cheese) for breakfast for me that day. Yep .. they're pretty great.