Ok, cool - Vanity, now I think I get you
Take this with a big side of IMHO...
1) You added 'weight' but measurements didn't change. That means it was pretty much muscle and water, and you likely lost some fat in the process.
2) 23 inches on thighs. C'mon now, even as a waist that's teeny
3) Hips, butt and thighs - I strongly believe that losing fat here will be more productive than trying to lose muscle. The jiggle isn't muscle; it's fat, and fat sits *on top* of a well trained muscle, not in it or under it. Thin out that fat layer, and you'll see the muscle. Here's another strange thing - fat thighs look wide from the front; muscular thighs look thin from the front but wider when seen from the side. The measurement may even stay the same. The shape, however, looks much better when determined by muscle than by fat.
Here's a suggestion, go to a bookstore or library and get the Bill Phillips Body for Life training diary. Don't buy it, just flip through it and look at the pics. It will list the BF% of almost every owman shown, and you'll get a feel for what looks like what, and you'll be able to see 20% with little muscle vs 20% with more muscle. It will help you get an idea of what you might want to look like in terms of BF%, level of muscle, etc.
BTW, my thighs are about 2 inches bigger than yours, but my LBM is similar. The difference is that I'm in the high 20s% for BF. As for my upper arms, as I begin to get biceps, the measurement is actually decreasing.
Good luck whichever path you choose.