ohhhhhh I am so sorry... I think you took me wrong or at least my tone wrong. It is so hard to say stuff on a computer when you can't see people actually saying it. I wasn't saying anything bad about you, I promise! TRUST me, I know it is a battle. I am constantly telling mine no all day long. Especially when we go somewhere. I am sure they think I am the meanest from me telling them no all the time. Mine are still small (oldest is 7) so they aren't away from me that much. I wasn't meaning anything more than what the others said about keeping junk away from the house. I know it is hard.. I am very sorry I came across sounding mean.. really.

My son has a big appetite for other reasons. He's on seizure meds and they really made him gain at first. This was a good thing since he was underweight before and the first med I had him on had the opposite effect.

If he had his way, he'd go for spaghetti every meal. I've had to learn not to do battle over food, but let HIM help prepare the meal, put the healthy choices in front of him, then back off... I shoot for 90-10% healthy to "treat", although some days it's 100% healthy, and some days I'm lucky to get 50-50!!

Sneaky substitutions like 1% milk for whole, 90% lean hamburger for the 80%, chicken breasts rolled in chopped nuts and baked instead of his beloved deep-fried, breaded chicken strips...oh, and the best trick I've found yet! He loves chinese food. If I served him a bowl of plain broccoli, I'd get "the look". If I serve it as part of a mixture with chicken and snap peas, and call it "Chinese Food like at the mall" he's all over it. <shrug> I'm not above trickery to get my way.

Next mission....slipping no-sugar-added frozen yogurt in for ice cream. I'm starting with the chocolate flavor, since I'm thinking he won't CARE as long as it's chocolate!

As for the school things and parties, I don't sweat it if he's getting good stuff most of the time.

So far, his weight is coming into line with his height. He's had some major surgery, which meant he lost a lot of weight and a lot of muscle. He tends to overcompensate and get "chunky" for a while, but I think it's getting back to normal.

Problem is, mine doesn't take the word NO very well. He has a mild Autism, so if I tell him no, there is usually screaming, yelling, throwing things at me, trying to bite me or..he just stalks me and keeps asking, or stalks me to try and hit me.

If I lock the fridge, he'll beat the door, jerk it till the chain rattles. LMAO, it gets interesting. But still, no means, NO. And mine will just have to accept it.

My aunt suggested having a lockable box in the fridge instead of locking the whole fridge, but I can see it now...he gets a hammer, rock, or throws the box trying to break it. What a disaster that would be.

I have a closet I keep locked with a combination lock and I caught him one day with a screwdriver undoing the screws. LOL. So, I put the screwdriver in there too.

LisaAC.. u got ur hands full.... sometimes it is just sooooo much easier to give in huh?.... but where does that get us!
My heart goes out to you in dealing with your son.... only you know what is the best way to handle him.... i am sure you are doing fine.

Potatofree... You are a sneak.. I LOVE IT!!! LOL.. i am going to try some of your sneaky ways with my kids food

I've also found a few ways to "sneak" in better things. I found out that the low carb fat free milk I get tastes exactly like the low fat regular milk. My son even can't tell the difference.

He loves cold greentea. I was out of sugar, so I put in stevia. Again, he can't tell the difference and I for one am not going to tell him.