This is very frustrating and embarrasing. I cannot ask anyone I know about this problem, so I appreciated everyone's opinion. My period started on March 25th. I took clomid for five days during my period. My side started hurting on April 7th, so I figured I was ovulating. Sure enough the clearblue stick had two dark matching lines saying I was ovulating. On April 7th the stick had me ovulating, so I begged my DH to have sex. He tried April 7th, April 8th, but on April 9th, he could not stay erected and we did not have sex. On April 10th and April 11th, we had sex. Because he could not stay erected on April 9th, I may have missed my chance. It is becomming a problem for him to stay erected. Have anyone else had this problem. He says it is because he feels like a machine and cannot get into the mood because I am putting too much pressure on him. Last month, the same thing happened. He says it is too much pressure. How can I get pregant if he cannot stay erected? I am so frustrated. Did I miss my chance to get pregant, should I keep trying this month? Thanks

Oh Amber, do I know how you feel. We did fertility drugs for a years and ran into this problem often. The explanation is simple..... he has to perform on demand, essentially, you have done your part (having big mature follicles) and now it's his "job" to do his part. Talk about pressure for him. I found my best approach was don't tell him when I was ovulating, it really takes a ton of pressure off of him. Infertility or on demand intercourse really takes the fun out of trying to get pg and causes major anxiety.

Viagra works

How about instead of begging him to have sex on demand, you seduce him without telling him you're ovulating at that moment - ya know make him want to have sex because it's going to be FUN!

Oh - if you tested positive on the stick on the 7th - odds are you actually ovulated on the 8th or 9th....the sticks tell you when your LH is starting to increase (surge) which indicates that ovulation is near - it's usually 24-48 hours later, which is why if you are doing the IUI route, you'd go in the next morning - to have the sperm "resident" in the tubes before the egg is released. So.....if you ovulated on the 8th or 9th, your egg would survive until the 9th or 10th - 24 hours approximately - you may have just caught the tail end of potential to get pregnant ---- by no means a guarantee, but also not impossible. And, BTW - if you did manage to hit it - odds are better than average it would be a boy since male sperm are better "swimmers" - faster, so they'd get to the egg faster. Good luck!

I totally agree with the other posters. Stress can be a major mood killer. I would go for the seducing idea. So he doesn't feel pressure to perform.

Thanks so much everyone. I will try to reduce my anxiety of trying so hard and try to be seductive. The thing is, my husband does not like it when I try to be sexy. So, on to plan C.

Your husband doesn't like it if you take the initiative? Wow

:::::sorry:::::

I kinda know what you mean.... There's no need to go crazy with a sexy outfit or weird stuff he's never seen before; you'll scare him for sure. Try an all-over body massage with oil or something along those lines. Just a little FYI... the higher his excitement, the better the count.

Some other things to consider...

1. When was the last time he had a full physical exam. Erectile dyfunction can be caused by diabetes, hypertension, and other physical ailments.

2. Does he take hypertension medication?

3. Does he take statins?

4. Does he consume soy??

5. Does he take diabetes medications?

Lisa

He does take high blood pressure medication. Could this be the cause? I have asked him to check into this, but he is almost threatened by this and is highly upset when I suggest something may be wrong. He refuses to think anything is wrong. It is almost like his manhood is being called into question.

Thanks

Most likely. He should take a little trip to see his doctor. There are so many alternative anti-hypertensive medications to choose from. He really just needs to have a very simple conversation with his doctor. This could be as simple as switching medication.

Pretty much. Even though we (women) don't see it like that at all.
Men--when it comes to their penis they get all wigged out.

Good Luck. The toughest part will be getting him to talk to his doctor.

Lisa

CNMLisa,

You are so insightful. Thanks. I will ask him. Pray for me

1. Have him start on a low carb diet. Zero carb would be even better. As many eggs every morning as you can get down him. I eat nine every morning. Then as much meat as you can get down him at lunch and dinner.

2. Have him start on this multi vitamin
http://www.vitacost.com/NSISynergyM...VitaminVersion2

3. Have him take like four of these per day
http://www.vitacost.com/NSIMegaEFAOmega3EPADHA

There are other supplements I would recommend such as
four of these every night
http://www.vitacost.com/NSINaturalGHFormula
Three of these every night
http://www.vitacost.com/NSIZMAUltra
One of these each day
http://www.vitacost.com/NSIMensPass...LJ100TongkatAli
One of these each data
http://www.vitacost.com/NSIDHEATimeReleased

give it about two months

mmm yeah, the saturated fat really contrubutes to testosterone levels. My husband is a lot happier when eating steak, butter and lots of shrimp. Maybe I should say I am happier when he eats those things. I didn't check out the links but Yohimbe hcl is an effective supplement.

Yohimbe is another good one. Here is a long / mostly complete list:

http://forum.lowcarber.org/showthre...ht=testosterone

Erection problems stem from two things: (1) poor circulation and (2) low testosterone / high estrogen (for men this is bad). Assuming they are young (conceiving kids) this should turn around in a couple of months (if not sooner).

Don't let your man eat anything with soy! Increases estrogen in men.

Drinking a lot of beer is also not good. Ever notice how men that drink a lot of beer get fat and large breasts?

Once she's pregnant she'll want to know how to turn him back off !

That's simple - less eggs and meat, more high glycemic foods, more beer, less vitamins and supplements. Don't stop all the vitamins and minerals - I would recommend keeping the multivitamin and fish oil - but do away with the other supplements.

You ladies have all the control -- you just need to fine tune it.