Wed, Aug-01-18, 13:39
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Senior Member
Posts: 3,831
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Plan: OWL
Stats: 177/168/135
BF:50.5/38/25
Progress: 21%
Location: Los Angeles
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Great article. I particularly love this section:
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Holiday food is another one where certain people will take offense to your refusal to indulge. I call them Food Pushers. You’ll learn to pick them out because they’re constantly telling you, “oh come on, you can just have a little!” or “you can eat _____! It’s Christmas/Grandma’s birthday/Easter!”
Well, no. For starters, I’m around temptations constantly and I don’t appreciate having added ones from my family and friends. That being said, I’ve learned the hard way how to avoid offending anyone in these situations, especially if they were the one who made the food they are trying to push. I often simply respond with I’ve already ate or I’ll try it later. I’ve even just plain lied and said that I already did try it, always thanking them for offering.
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hahahahah good advice.
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You’ll start to unconsciously judge people for their food choices and worry that people are judging you for yours
I’ve learned that I find myself judging people, usually random strangers, for their food choices. Not on purpose and not in a mean way. Really, not in a mean way at all. More out of concern and wishing I could tell them how much better they’d feel because I’ve been there and I know what it’s like. When I catch myself thinking these things about these people I don’t even know, my heart instantly sinks. I don’t know their relationship with food, if they’re trying to make healthier choices and I caught them on an off day or where they are in their own health journey but I do know I have no business in any of it.
I never say anything, because when I was 300 pounds, those people who were always talking about their dietary choices drove me craaaazy. I didn’t care about anyone’s totally-amazing-gluten-free-totally-healthy-way-of-life and I definitely didn’t want them to talk to me about it. I always wondered back then why everyone who was gluten free seemed to feel the need to tell everyone else that they were, too. Now, well, now I kind of understand. I just want to share what I’ve learned and hope that maybe it helps someone else change their life like I did.
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I'm guilty of this, for sure. I enthuse about the LC lifestyle if the subject of diet comes up. Now thinking if I should just stay mum unless someone specifically asks me for my advice. (But why would she ask, if I don't let slip that I've lost xx lbs doing an LC diet?)
Never occurred to me that my enthusiasm could come across as obnoxious.
Also love her section about how now, after she's lost all that weight, that's mostly what people talk to her about. Compliment her about. It gets wearying (for her, not for me, LOL). When did it become polite to comment on a person's size? It's not, "What a lovely dress!" or "You look so stylish." But, "Wow! You've lost so much weight!" Isn't it still rude to get too personal in polite conversation?
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