Sun, Jun-10-12, 07:55
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Senior Member
Posts: 2,146
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Plan: Atkins
Stats: 336/286/199
BF:Losing it....
Progress: 36%
Location: Canada ay?
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Quote:
Originally Posted by WereBear
It's perfectionism. And it's deadly to our well-being.
It seems to start in childhood; when our parents over-react to something we do, whether it's actually "bad" or not, we decide if we never do anything remotely wrong, we will never be yelled at, or worse, again.
And the futile quest begins.
It distorts our thinking in many many ways. We exaggerate the consequences of "failure" so we are anxious about trying new things. It leads to procrastination; because if we don't start, we don't fail. We are constantly questioning our abilities because we aren't perfect yet!
So we wind up trapped in our misery and unable to get out.
So the next time you do something and it makes no sense, explore the idea that hidden perfectionism is what is sucking all the joy from your life. Do what I do, instead:
Strive for excellence.
If I make a tasty meal, write a few good paragraphs, finish a new chapter in my personal study program: Great! If I can't get to it today... I won't beat myself up over it. Tomorrow is a new, and promising, opportunity.
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Hmmmm...
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