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Originally Posted by Molly B
Imagine if you were a poor person, and your 'friend' was RICH, mind blowing rich-- and every time you expressed how DIFFICULT it was to make the ends meet, to keep the lights on and the water HOT---THEY TOO mentioned how HARD it was for them. BULLSH*T I say!! BULLSH*T!
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Aha---been there, done that, and you have hit a place where I have been and I get how that feels---very sucky.
Still, in my situation, I do think that the person WAS having issues. At the time, I just felt like it was easier for them because they had more money to work with. Why not just sell something, or not buy the most expensive model, or whatever? In looking at it now, I realize that people are just where they are at, and the set of circumstances might be different, but it doesn't make their situation affect them any more negatively, even if there did seem to be an easy solution.
If we can think about it the opposite, what if a very poor person came to us and shared their woes, and in an effort to identify with them, we shared ours. Should they be angry at us because our problems seem lighter than the looming wall of problems that they are facing? Again, I feel like it's a fantastic idea not to 'one up' each other with our problems, for sure--that just seems to completely negate the validity of our feelings about what is going on. But in the event that it does happen, we've got to be able to deal with that.
Having said that---I feel you. Honestly I do, and I'm really sorry you are feeling insulted. That's a hard place to be, and I, for one, (just being real here) have a hard time continuing to like people that hurt my feelings (I'm working on this). I do wish you all the best in getting over this issue, I know it is a hard one. BIG hugs.