I honestly wasn't going to respond to this thread given the history that you and I have had with butting heads, and the way I sometimes feel like I'm shouting into deaf ears when I talk to you, but Dogbert, I want you to succeed. You know that. Your posts on here remind me of me before I changed my mindset so much that it's scary. I really, truly do want you to beat this thing. But I also know that in order to do that, you are going to have to change some fundamental things about your approach. For instance:
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Originally Posted by Dogbert199
Don't have ready access to a scale that'll handle my size; but it doesn't matter.
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Yes, it does! Get one!!! I've been saying this FOREVER! WHY WON'T YOU GET ONE?! Seriously, it is NOT that big of an investment, and it pays HUGE dividends. This one:
http://www.amazon.com/Tanita-HD-351...73977829&sr=8-1
is the one that I and a lot of other people swear by.
If you are going to succeed, you MUST BE ACCOUNTABLE. The scale will keep you accountable in a real, ongoing way. People who are committed to doing this weigh themselves regularly and under constant conditions (always the same time of day and with the same clothes on/off),
I've noticed over my year+ on here that people who don't succeed have certain basic things in common. (1) They give themselves excuses when they do something off plan ("there wasn't any food in the house," "I was at a restaurant and I had to get..."), (2) They make up excuses *to* go off plan ("It's my birthday," "I'm under a lot of stress," "I don't have time right now..."), (3) they delude themselves into believing and try to convince everyone else that they know more than the plan does, and they make up their own "variation" instead of sticking to what an expert - whichever one, from south beach to atkins to whatever - has to say, and (4) they get combative instead of being open to advice from other people.
All four of these have nothing to do with WHAT people eat on their plan. They have everything to do with why they eat and what their underlying issues with food are. Without working on those (HARD) issues, I honestly think that those four things will stop anyone from succeeding.
In the past, we've had disagreements about all of those points. So I hope that this time it sticks, I really, truly do. But I don't think it will if you don't start working on the real problem, and that has nothing to do with *what* you're eating.
So I'm still here with advice any time you want it, and I'm still hoping very, very much that you succeed. It's just that it's getting to be time for the actions to match the words.
-j.