I don't understand men either. When dh and I started dating he told me that he liked me as I was, I was about the 125 mark. He told me that he was glad I wasn't fat. As time went on I did put on weight not that much before we married, probably about 135ish. After we married it seemed that all hanky panky went out the door, he wasn't interested. I started putting on weight, I'd notice some interest, I went on a diet and lost weight - no interest for months until I gained it back. I got pregnant and started expanding, he got very interested and since then the larger I am it seems the more interested he is. Have to wait and see what which way it goes as my weight goes down, at least I may get some more sleep

Men...we can't live without them...and we can't kill them! Ha! My mother in law has lost 30 lbs. since the last time we saw her. We saw her last weekend and she looks fantastic! Afterwards, I said, "Didn't your mom look great?". He hadn't even noticed that she looked different! What exactly goes on in their little heads? I think you should enjoy the compliments from others, but be careful that you don't start thining, "You know...I could do better than that piece of..." Don't take it so personally. Unfortunately there are only a chosen few wives who have observant husbands. The rest of us have to love our clueless guys as they are.