Jo, I looked at your photos as a result of this thread and also saw where you have been at goal for about five years. Is that right? If so, and if this is the youngest daughter from that family pic where y'all are standing tallest to shortest, she may be too young to remember the struggling part of your journey. Maybe to her, your size looks as effortless as your husband and son's sizes are. We think that because kids are in the household for all the stuff that happens, then they must be aware of how things went. She may have been really young when you were in the deprivation stages. As a successful dieter - that is, one who has changed her way of life - you most likely no longer talk about what you can't have, that you used to love. Now, she sees you only eating 'adult' foods, never treats that kids usually gravitate to, and she may want no part of that range of choices. If she is like I was about sweets, to say she can never eat sugary treats again would be like telling an adult they can never have sex again. I'm not saying there is anything sexual about the foods to her, but it's the only thing I can come up with that is comparable in its ability to be compelling to a person. She sees you calmly enjoying your healthy lifestyle with food, and sees her dad and brother calmly, effortlessly enjoying their donuts and other tasty foods and then she, relating more to their appetites than yours, can't have what she wants to eat. It must be infuriating to her and feel very unfair. If you were my mom when I was that age and I saw how you eat, I would want no part of that.
Conversely, if she is more aware than I have described, of your starting point, she may be afraid of that fate being ahead of her and that can make one angry as well. She may feel she has no hope of being able to resist her desire for sugar and be angry at the hopelessness of her future (in her eyes, of course). If she is ever in earshot of a discussion between you and one of your friends, you might direct some comments to that person, as part of a conversation, about how you approached starting lc, way back in the day, and how it got easier as you went along even though it seemed like murder at first. Of course, your friend would have been told ahead of time what the purpose is and be in on it. I wouldn't do it a lot, but once or twice, in an artful way might help.
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