Bill I truly feel for you and your wife. Remember that beating yourself up about it is not going to help things. My granddaughter, who will be 16 on Sunday, is being treated for Ewings Sarcoma, a kind of children's bone cancer. When she was diagnosed last April one of my first thought was "I wish it had been me not her", but it is what it is and we figure out how to cope with the reality. It may not be what we want but it is, unfortunately, what we have. I am sure you are a wonderful and supportive husband to your wife and that's what's important now.

Jean