See? You're going to hurt some people's feelings if you don't notice. And you are going to enrage others if you do. Rock and a hard place.

Just be genuine and kind, and maybe avoid asking questions unless invited? MOST of the time, that should do. People are all different. I had a dear friend who died of cancer, and she loved to be told how good she was looking.... I overheard her talking on the phone, repeating with delight a compliment I had given her.

So you just never know.

This convo has sensitized me to the fact that not all weight loss is a celebration, which is important since on these forums we are often celebrating our own and each other's losses. Lots of personal stuff can unwittingly be barged into on the subject of why someone loses weight or is changing their diet.