Janet, you are a gem. A lot to process in those links, I have started.

To be fair, because I really try to be, given the stage of my tumor, treatment approach is the standard. I think this next checkup is important, especially as I don't feel well - BUT - I didn't feel well prior to the discovery of the tumor and it's removal. It's either not related, or another cancer elsewhere. This is what I must discuss with him at our next meeting. Yes, I have put it off until then.
I don't have an oncologist at this point, just a urologist/surgeon with over 40 years of experience, well rated, whose patients love him (per reviews) and per the surgery scheduler (we got chatting), is a doc others in the medical arena send their family members to.