You're not misreading me. It seems from the responses that she and I both have an idea what she should look like as she matured that doesn't fit what is happening. Because she seemed to have disproportionally heavy hips and thighs according to our current mindset, we both assumed that she needed to lose some weight.

We've been playing both angles - both attempting to effect some weight loss (8 pounds, maybe?) and also accept the reality of her curvaceous figure even though it doesn't fit with our preconception.



That's my thought on the matter, for the most part... I was just surprised, and dismayed, yes, at the weight gain and didn't want to ignore the situation until she'd gained *too much* (whatever that is)

I clearly need to address the body image issue.