I have been a redhatter for about a year. Our group meets about once a month. We go to plays, booksignings, out to dinner, have pj parties, meet with other groups, go to teas, have parties.. It is always fun. We make our red hats as outrageous as possible and wear our purple. There are a lot of commercial outfits put out for redhatters now. Worth looking up a group. I am sure every group is different, and if the first one you meet up with doesn't share your interests, try another. Some people like to party, some like events, etc. Just like people everywhere. But people who think it is fun to dress silly and go out in public are more apt to be fun people (or nuts) than your average women's club.