My father was an alcoholic and my Mother always said I needed to be careful in later life as daughters tended either ended up as one or married one. My partner is definately not the problem and is the kindest, gentlest man but I'm worried I may be. I stopped drinking entirely for the last 6 months and felt much better for it but whenever I do drink I want to keep going until I'm out of it. I had a bad day a work today (got in trouble cause I was late but the beauty queen who takes over my shift was later than I was and the stupid boss didn't bother to get angry at her!!!!! I've got issues I know!!!! :-) It's not fair that someone can just smile and get away with things....She does have that certain je nes sei qua (sorry my french is appalling) but I'm not miles behind her on the attractiveness scale!!!!) AQARRRRRRGHHHHH!!!! Anyway I'm on drink number 5 and will probably have another - although vodka doesn't get me half as silly or drunk as beer used to). Secretly I'm scared I have a problem and my partner will leave me in 1-0 years after we get married. (I used to be bulemic and then just ate, and now that my diet is restricted I've started drinking)

Any advice welcome...


Karen.

My parents were both alcoholics, so I understand where you are coming from. I drink on rare occasions, but never much, nor often - I am too scared. And when I do, I am always too scared to enjoy it.

What does a drink do for you? Make you forget for awhile? Make your problems go away? No, it just postpones them - they will still be there when you come off that high. Oftentimes worse for delaying them.

What your boss did to you was not fair - your co-worker was late, she should be treated the same. I suggest you go to your Human Resources department - plan what you are going to say, try not to get emotional (I have a tendancy to cry at the oddest times!) present your case camly... And stand up for yourself. You are most definately worth it!

Glitergirl

I would like to suggest to you to read the post and all the replys on "Red wine evening addiction"
It is so full of helpul insights from people just like yourself, I posted it awhile back and it has been so helpful to me and sooooo many others.Why not take a peek at it. If anything it is a great read You might just see yourself in there.

get professional help!

Karen,

You are doing so well if you have managed to stay off drinks for 6 months. Why spoil all that ? You know it will take you less than 5 hours to down 5 drinks and probably more than FIVE MONTHS to undo the damage.

I hear your concerns about the genetic factor. All the more reason for you to take extra care, my dear. Use it as a preventative ... not as an excuse, but as motivation to stay on course .

Life is not fair - I've just been watching Correspondent on BBC2. It was all about American and other International Policemen going to places like Bosnia to help bring peace and stability and the underground kidnapping, selling, and putting young women up for prostitution. Punishing yourself because your boss chastised you for being late is not the solution. It will only give you a hangover and make you late again.

Look after yourself. Stay strong.

Take loving, accepting, focussed care of yourself.

Hiya Karen,


I am also an adult offspring af an alcoholic parent. I always have followed one rule in my life......because I too am scared of the genetic predisposition possibility. I never have a drink if I need one. Hope this helps.....


Marie

My father was an alcoholic.

I am a recovering alcoholic. It has been 17 months since my last drink. There have been MANY times when the stress from my job has caused me to make the statement "my God I need a drink" and I have said that to my husband. I love my job but can't stand my boss nor the "good ole boy" attitude that floats around the office.

I am thankful for this Way Of Life mainly because it has given me focus and has pretty much stabilized any and all cravings for the bottle.

Put the bottle down, it is only an empty path that leads to misery and heartbreak. You deserve better and so does your partner. Seek professional help if you need to, but by all means get some type of help. It is no fun being so out of things that you can't remember what day it is or the fight you caused the night before with a loved one.

Hey Glitergirl

You posted on June 12th.... It is now the 17th..... Hope you are OK Let us hear from you again !I am sure everyone here is wishing you the best, and will be here for you if you need us. O'Suzana