I am 50, and I weigh about what you do, I have a great guy and I still often get asked if i am single, I ran into my guy in Walmart,lol, he works in their warehouse, and i work in a warehouse, too, we both go to the same demonation of Church, he is 55, not so young either, but so far things are working out, don't give up, you are plenty gorgeous.

I met my partner on match.com.

I figured I wouldn't meet anyone, and I really didn't trust the whole process, so I just decided to be completely honest.

I described my size, said I had no idea if I would ever be any smaller -- basically they had to deal with it. I also described my personality and other quirks. Guess what? At 48 years old, I had lots of interest. Yes, most were not for me -- not even close. Some were somewhat interesting, and some did seem to have a problem with my weight. But I became the one in charge of the situation and started writing a few men and started to get to know them without ever meeting them in person -- kind of like old fashioned wooing.

For me, this was a success. I felt like I could be attractive to men and make decisions about what I wanted, not just go out with someone because they liked me. And I finally met someone who shared an incredible amount of shared interests and politics (a deal breaker for me).

I recommend taking it slow and get to know someone with e-mail and phone calls -- then meet in a safe, public, place. I also did a web search to verify he was legit.

I'm very happy after 6 years. Good luck.

Wow! All I can say is "you ladies are really great"! Whether you realize it or not, you help keep my head on straight when I think I'm about to lose it.

Dang! PilotGal what great ideas. It's a bit chilly to be hangin' out at the marina right now, but nevertheless, all wonderful ideas. Now why I didn't think about going to the electronics store just baffles me. I think I would be more comfortable there too. I'll have to check out pof.com when I get a chance.

Everybody...thank you for helping get/keep my head in check. Being an older woman ain't exactly easy sometimes. I'm still dealing with the fact that I'm 50. It hasn't quite sunk in yet, but of course society is quickly putting me in check...well...that...and these lines that seem to have start to appear under my eyes. Oh lawd...I don't know about this growing older gracefully stuff.

Anyway, I signed up on a dating site and right now I'm just getting tickled pink checking out all the guys. At some point, I guess I'll get bold enough to respond to some of the messages...well to the ones that "seem" to have there heads on straight anyway. :lol

I am a single mom, my husband left in February this year. I've been very lonely but I'm not ready to bring someone new into my life or my kids' lives. But I have to deal with being so lonely. So I have decided to volunteer where I can. I've been a stay at home mom for years, and haven't found work yet...as I know that would keep me busy. I have volunteered at a their school and love it. I also am volunteering for a pregnancy center. I have in the past volunteered for a church. There is a good place to meet men, a big church. Some have single's groups. When I'm ready that's where I'll go. A place to have fun experiences in a group setting and if a man catches my eye, then it'll be a safe place to get to know each other. I know I need more friends that are single because my married friends are so busy with their families or some married women can't stand a single woman hanging around. That thought always hurts because I pride myself on being upstanding (not perfect, but not ever a husband stealer). So my main focus, and maybe you should to, keep busy - body, mind and spirit... and remain open to look for new friendships in different venues.

50. The new 30. I turned 50 in May. So what! Personally, I feel like I'm hotter than I was at 30--why??!! How can that be??!! Because I have the wisdom now to accept myself and LIKE myself. I have the wisdom to know that I can lead an independent life without a man if that's the way it's going to be. I would ask you--do you live a fulfilled happy life? Do you challenge yourself with new things? (I became a Zumba instructor last month--gasp!!! at 50???!!! You betcha). The thing that I find what attracts MEN (not boys) is a streak of self confidence a mile wide and a day long.

I was in San Francisco last month for business--the Apple store was packed with men

Don't feel sorry for yourself because you're 50. Feel good about yourself because you're taking control of your weight thus control of your life. You go girl!

Progress not perfection!

Lisa

PS--why the hell would look for a man in a bar?? That would be the last place I'd go looking for a man.

Try a wine tasting or a food tasting.
Go to the gym--tons a men at the gym.
Go to a sports game-geez, you could swing a stick and hit 100 men
Go to UNLV hospital--hang out at the coffee kiosk--might catch yourself a doctor

Just don't sit around lamenting that you're 50. Live your life with or without a man.

As you may or may have not noticed I've had Morris Chestnut listed as my BF in my stats for quite a while now but, sorry Morris Chestnut, it's been sweet but you're gonna have to step aside i'm kicking you to the curb now 'cause I have a new love, Ryan Gentles. Lawd...lawd...help me...whoooh!

Gail's New BF: Ryan Gentles ~ Isn't He Lovely~

Oh my god, he is gorgeous! I never go after another ladies man so enjoy him

Wow, I wouldn't even know what to do with that much man....

Maybe it's me...

But there is a point where a man is too goodlooking--he's way past that point.

Personally, I like man that has some mileage on him. You know what Indiana Jones said...it's not the age, it's the mileage

Well have fun with weathered Indiana Jones, I'm off with my new BF. That is if i can stop fainting everytime i see him. That man is so fine, my heart keeps skipping beats.

Well after all of the initial fainting i'm sure i'll figure out exactly what to do with This gorgeous man.

Wow. Do I know how you feel. I'm 53 and sometimes I feel like it's too late. I've only lost 27 lbs and have over 100 to go. I worry about how I will dress if and when I get to my goal, i.e., too youngish. I thought about the attention from men. Before, I couldn't handle it, so I would go back to my fat suit. This time, I'm doing it for me. Even losing 27 lbs and feeling good physically makes me feel good emotionally. And it shows.

I've been dressing better and yet, no one has said anything about my wgt. I think it is noticeable, but apparently not.

I don't worry about the men so much now. They weren't exactly beating my door down when I was younger and thinner. Now, I just want to dress for me. To feel good about the way I look. I think people gravitate to you, or at least respect you more, if you exude that self confidence. And if I find a man in the process, that's gravy. But I feel good about myself. And right now, that's enough.

Okay, if I don't tell somebody I think I'm just going to burst...I'm going on a date. I'm totally nervous and excited all at the same time. We are going to meet at one of the casinos near my home for drinks tomorrow night to see if we hit it off. Ayi!

You are not cute...girls are cute. You are a GORGEOUS woman with alot to offer any man . When I start wishing I was younger, I realize I don't want to go back to those days again. There is a certain air about a confident mature woman that young girls cannot match (especially one with curves). Don't give up on finding someone, it will come when you least expect it. Good luck!

How kind of you. Thank you tsuggs.