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Originally Posted by Samantha22
Interesting.
I have been shopping in "normal" sized stores for about 8 months or so, and I still feel very very self conscious.
I have this little voice that tells me I'm too fat to be shopping and picking up things below plus sizes...and I feel like people are looking at me wondering "what is she thinking...she's too fat for this store".
I know damn well it's my twisted brain telling me lies about how I look...but it's still there..and to me it's real.
Milestones are awesome, but they are stressful as well. With each pound that we lose, we uncover another emotional issue that we buried under fat.....good stress and bad stress...they are both difficult and take some adjustment.
Be proud, you have done so well, buy yourself a pair of Gap jeans! They are worth every penny and are THE BEST fitting jeans I've ever had!
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I'm still experiencing this also. Haven't lost that much weight in recent months, but my shape is changing a lot, and I'm still dropping sizes because of a new weight training routine.
But, even before that - I'd shop in the cheapest 'normal' stores possible, because anything I'd buy wouldn't fit me for too long.
I just recently worked up the courage to go into Banana Republic, Ann Taylor and so on. And yes, I was *uncomfortable*. I don't know how long this feeling will last - but what Valerie was saying gives me some hope - in the sense that it's just a matter of finding some new stores, and just a few that you like and sticking with those. Right now, it's still sort of overwhelming.
I keep making mistakes too - buying things haphazardly, when I don't yet have the basics. As in, I don't have a wardrobe. So, my next task is to go through my closet and figure out what it is that I actually need, and then go looking for it. Little by little - I'll come up with the basics. Then I can shop for the 'fun' items. Geeze - last week, I somehow ended up with a purple cardigan. I have nothing that goes with it. This won't work...lol!
I bought a really pretty dark navy jacquard pencil skirt a few months ago. Never did have anything to wear it with - and now it's too big.
My closet is filled with 'orphans' such as these.
By the way - went into The Gap myself last week too - and was pretty happy with it. They were having a huge sale, and there was a great selection of sizes. I didn't feel quite as self-conscious there as I did in the Ann Taylor store. Not sure why...but I did notice the clerk in there was really nice, friendly and helpful. This wasn't the case at Ann Taylor.
That said, when I got home from my shopping trip - I was putting stuff away, and noticed that the clothing I was wearing that day was too baggy and big on me. So maybe I looked sort of sloppy? Who knows. I definitely felt weird though in the 'regular' shops.
I'm looking forward to this awkward feeling going away, and being able to enjoy the new clothes shopping. Not sure when that'll happen, but I hope it does.