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Originally Posted by HappyLC
My problem is that she thought it was okay to call him ugly simply for being fat and that you gave her a "Damn! You go, Girl!" (your words) in response.
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Nothing I said had anything to do with the "ugly" comment. I
bolded the part that I thought was funny in my first post, and I explained it once again in my response to your negative comment (the words "blow up.") It simply amused me that she used the words "Blow Up,"-nothing more, nothing less, and if that offends you -there is nothing I can do. (I did not think she used those words on him, but reverted to "slang" when explaining it to us.)
My "Damn, You go, Girl!" was not in response to the "ugly" comment. Though I guess I can see how you might interpret it that way. You are jumping to conclusions about the meaning behind my words again.
My "Damn, You go, Girl!" -meant that I was impressed that she had the gumption and enough concern to make the effort to try to get through to the man, a complete stranger to her, because she was worried about his health. I don't even have the ba**s to tell my family, whom I dearly love, that I think saturated fat is good for us, even though I am concerned and worried about their health, much less make the effort for a complete stranger. So the "You Go!" was for her gumption, NOT meant as "Way to insult him, Girl!"
My post was not meant to be an endorsement of the opinion that the man is ugly or that it is okay to call him ugly-though it has obviously come across that way to you. I haven't even thought about the issue of whether I think it's okay to call him ugly or not, because, honestly, that sentence didn't really jump out/register with me and I didn't even realize she called him ugly. (From always "glossing over" and not thoroughly reading posts-yes-even though I looked at it twice, bc my first thought to your response was, "Nobody said that!")
You might then say that those words
should have jumped out and offended me and all of us, and my response would be: She gave her opinion, and it is what it is. Whether obesity makes some people unattractive is obviously a personal opinion, and I understand that you don't think she should be sharing it on this forum. But I am not going to debate political correctness.
If I thought my comment would be interpreted as an endorsement that "it is okay to call fat people ugly" I certainly never would have posted. I already do regret posting because of the misinterpretation, frustration of the exchange, the time that I have used in carefully trying to explain myself after impulsively shooting off a one-liner in two seconds, and the fact that you chose to express your displeasure to me instead of the person who made the remarks that offended you in the first place.