I think Liz has a good point. People shudder and cringe when they hear a certain number, but they have no idea what that weight actually looks like. Go in and ask. Don't ask for opinions, just ask if the equipment has a weight limit and if so, what it is. You should never have to volunteer your numbers if you don't want to.
Its possible that the pole dancing poles have a limit for some of the moves.
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I contemplated taking a martial arts class. I wrote to the school and they kindly suggested that it may be easier on me if I lost some weight first. I told them that I walked a lot and lifted weights etc. They still didn't think it was a good idea.
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Next time, just show up. Again, I don't think they have any concept of what those numbers mean. If you show up and you're comfortably mobile and carry yourself with strength they are less likely to just decide you're too big. Also, if you just show up and ask questions you're more likely to see an instructor, who might have ideas on how to work with you or other approaches that might work better, than an office bunny who will just say no out of hand. Plus, actually showing up shows more interest in commitment. It might make a better impression, and that might get a better reception.
Have you thought of belly dancing? Its a great workout and if anyone tries to tell you you can't do it at your size
they're lying because I took a class when I was at my heaviest and it was fun. I suck at it, but its still a lot of fun1
How about a swimming class or water aerobics? If your schedule permits, try to find one geared at seniors. No one in those classes will care in the slightest how you look. And they expect a wide range of ability there.
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I just don't understand how some people can just shrug it off like its nothing and just not let it get to them.
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The people who matter don't mind, and the people who mind don't matter.
I really try to live by that.
If people have nothing better to do than examine the contents of my shopping basket, well, they're welcome to. They don't know me, or how I live my life, or how much I've changed things in the last 3 years, or anything relevant.
If someone comes up to me these days with a weight loss story, I just answer by saying "yeah, I've lost 120 lbs in the last 2 years. Takes forever doesn't it", or something like that. Not that people tend to do that to me. Although one person did the last time I was at Disney and I sicced a staff member on her for soliciting on the Disney property. Inappropriate.
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The best armor you can have against those people is accepting your size and knowing you are moving forward.
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I think this is also important. I know that I used to be so big it was too far to walk to the curb to get the mail. I was sick all the time. I really couldn't function very well, even though I didn't really know that at the time.
Now I'm strong, and healthy, and active. No, I'm not thin yet. Maybe I won't ever get to thin, but I most definitely don't take attitude from people who don't know my history, or my lifestyle.
Which isn't meant to invalidate your post. I still have days where I definitely feel that I'm being treated like a second class citizen because of size. I just work really hard to remember that they don't know what I'm doing, and they don't know how far I've come.
And really, I'm the same person now I was 120+ ago. I'll probably be pretty much the same person in another 120-. If they don't like me now, they probably won't like me then either, so just brush them off and go on.