Originally Posted by MIKENYPD

umm about the whole sex and seperated thing IMHO its either one or the other I understand there are feelings there but if its over its over, you should not be there for his needs if he is not there for yours ( yes Iam a man eventhough you would expect this rant from a woman) he is not gonna get his act together if he knows he can come over and have his needs meet , if you guys are trying to reconcile then maybe conseling would be better than his coming over to nap and screw..... sorry if its a bit harsh

Originally Posted by connie7

I think it's a good idea NOT to start until after the holidays. No need having all that temptation discouraging you so soon. I think even Dr. A suggests in at least one book that the holidays are not the best time to start this WOE.

Start fresh, in the New Year, with renewed committment to this WOE. It'll be easier, and you'll do fine.

Oh yes, and I'm SURE it's fine to keep posting even though you aren't going to start until after the holidays! Everyone is welcome (except trolls!)

Happy Holidays, and all the best to you.

Originally Posted by swingdance

Hi Diana..hugs to you and comforts!

I tend to agree with Mikenypd

If you are just letting him come over and 'whatever'..that isn't helping your relationship any

I would tell him either you work on the ENTIRE relationship, or not at all..

Just sex is not a good foundation..

I'm sorry, I bet this is hard for you!

Good luck

Originally Posted by pengu1

Hi Dianna55.

The holidays are a tough time to start induction, I know since I started on July 1st. What my GF and I did was start eating an induction type menu while cutting down on the sweets and treats. We changed our drinking habits from beer to Atkins friendly cocktails, and drastically cut down on the carbs. We still did our holiday partying, but with the idea that we would start low carbing soon. We would just do it in baby steps. We cut out the pasta and potato salads, and the chips and dips. I guess you could say we weaned ourselves off of the high carb foods we used to eat.

After the 4th of July, we just cut out the few bad foods we had eaten and started a clean induction. Going from a semi-low carb to induction reduced the amount of cravings we had and made it a bit easier. I guess I would call it a "pre-induction" diet.

As far as your relationship is going, you are the only person who can dictate what works for you. I can only echo MIKENYPD and say that if he thinks he can use you whenever he wants and get away with it, there will never be any incentive for him to change. It's up to you to change this.

Good luck with your diet!

Originally Posted by WyoDiva

Welcome to the forum!

Don't let him use you as a 'booty call'. That surely won't help your depression/weight loss journey. You are worth so MUCH more!!