My BMI is on the lower side but still considered normal. I feel great and I am not blacking out in 90 min yoga classes, so that probably says it all. My mom is 4'11 and her weight is not a lot, but her frame makes her look a little chunky. Not heavy by any means, though. Moms worry and I love her for it. As long as she's supportive of me...

Thanks

Eh....I just ignore my mom. Solves a lot of problems.

LOL! I am usually able to successfully. Weight is a sensitive issue for me and my sister. We've both "toyed" with disorders as teenagers. Meaning starving ourselves for days at a time. Thats why I love this lifestyle. I have to eat for it to work and I absolutely love the food that I do eat. HORRAY FOR LC OPTIONS!

One interjection?

One's BMI may not come to bear. If I were at my ideal BMI I would be anorexic! I am off the charts as my last doctor said. At my goal weight, with an optimal body fat percentagwe I would still be listed as obese on the BMI.

Body fat percentage is a much more accurate way of gauging things, IMHO.

By the way, I am 5'11", have a 52 inch chest, 17 inch neck, broad shoulders and exremely muscular legs. I also have a 44 inch waist, but I am working on that!

I have tho opposite problem. I am trying to convince my daughter to try this WOE. She has seen it works for me, but isn't ready to give up carbs. I do worry about her health. Come to think of it my daughter is ignoring me too

It's this super mutant power us daughters have.

However, in this case, she should be listening to mother.

Please for the sake of your own daughters mental health NEVER say things like that to them again! I was the shorter tubbier daughter of two and despite being three years younger than my sister and STRONGER and FASTER, I still always had family members commenting on my size. The worst thing was when mum made comments. That is what hurt the most because she is the one person in this world who is meant to think I am perfect and wonderful and love me unconditionally (despite teen tantrums etc lol)

Thanks to years of little thoughtless comments from a number of people, I ended up with an eating disorder which I have been struggling with for a number of years. (By the way, until my ED hit and the bingeing started my BMI was never higher than 24, so technically not 'overweight') I am now getting over it thanks to low carbing which has helped me modify the binge/purge cycle but it is not easy. Thankfully a while ago my mother finally realised I was severly depressed/had an ED (among other things) and is careful now to only ever make good comments. I have lost weight and gained it, she has seen me struggle. She compliments me when I lose weight, because she knows what it means to me, but doesnt say a thing when I gain. I just wish she had realised sooner what an impact her words have on me!!!

(re the actual name of this thread, personally I have found it doesnt encourage eating disorders, it helps you get over them!!!)

I also have been SERIOUSLY influenced by comments and attitudes during my childhood about my weight, and though I wasn't seriously overweight during that time, the more I worried about it and tried to figure out what I was supposed to do (if I ate less or showed signs of "dieting" I was constantly afraid of criticism for not cleaning my plate...) I gained and became overweight. This affected my attitude and lifestyle even into adulthood. I am working hard at changing my concious and subconcious attitudes and behaviours about food, and also, people's reactions to me/food.
(and yes, my mom was largely to blame, and I did learn to ignore her!)

HI, Kids. I just got here, but wanted to add two cents more.

I haven't seen anyone mention that anorexia, bulemia, and other "eating disorders" are almost irresistibly compulsive and difficult to cure. Merely being "preoccupied" or "obsessed' with food and eating issues might interfere with "normal" life activities and relationships, but it isn't usually deadly, unless odd eating habits lead to illness or disability related to malnutrition.

The only way I can successfully maintain a healthy weight is by being more aware than the average person about everything I put in my mouth. I consider it a kind of hobby, and this forum (among others) is my support group. Hello, I'm Barbara, and I'm a thin person with a fat person screaming to get out.

It takes a lot of time and energy to discover one's personal health zone, including dealing with messsages from my mother, "the culture," and the mirror. I'm glad I've found mine, and look forward to another few decades of good living.

The thing is, the line between "more aware than the average person" and "eating disorder" is often impossible to SEE when you're right in the middle of it.

For some, it can be a very slippery slope indeed.

i can tell you this, from someone with an anorexic past, who fortunately caught on early enough to avoid serious malnutrition issues (but still screwed up her metabolism and all that). i still have the obsessive/compulsive issues to deal with, and since i realized early on that there is only so much i can control externally, my OCD focused inward. not eating each day became an accomplishment and gave me control over SOMETHING in my life. the reason i could completely embrace lowcarbing was that it gave me the rigid structure my mind so badly needed as a form of control... but it also gives me the freedom within that structure to eat in such a way that i stay healthy. it is literally, the best of both worlds for me.

will i ever be "cured" of the OCD issues? probably not, but lowcarbing has given me a way to channel them in a positive manner, rather than in a destructive one. now if only it could channel them to things like keeping the house clean... .

UPDATE: I went to MD to visit my mother and she said that I looked sickly! I think that means something positive considering I'm 2 lbs from my goal. I have been eating, honest! She thinks that I'm doing something I shouldn't be because the weight came off where I look smaller than 117. I love her and she claims it's her "grandmother" coming out with the whole "Eat something, you look hungry" which would be said to a 200 pound person, so no great issue there. But she hasn't seen me so thin since probably the 11th grade. I am healthy. I took her to lunch and ate in front of her, so she knows I'm consuming something!

Coming from a "compulsive" eating "issues" past, I can tell you that I do obsess. It's a slippery slope. I'd rather NOT EAT than eat something with lots and lots of carbs. We went to a diner for lunch and I was going to stick with coffee until I "compromised" with myself and had a whole wheat grilled cheese with cheddar (and not eating the chips). I chased it with 2 cups of black coffee. My mom watched me eat suspiciously. She means well, believe me. I'd rather have someone say I'm too skinny than too fat. I guess it's all in the mind of the recipient.

LC is an eating ORDER not DISorder. It brings order to an otherwise chaos of
overeating of the wrong kinds of food. People can find a way to abuse almost
anything in order to 'satiate' themselves physically or psychologically. But,
I wonder if the body would moderate itself to a threshold weight even if a
person continues to LC after reaching goal.

I looked at your pictures. You look healthy, not sickly. She's just being a mom.

i read and atricle about some girl in a magazine that said she turned anorexic bc of atkins. she saw that she was losing so much weight eventually she decraed her carbs and then she just stopped eating. but it was in one of those fitless maagazine. for those who want to be twiggy, not healthy