Atkinsboy, there's no need to get angry. Celebrate the fact that you are young, male and fairly active allowing you to be in the position of not having to count calories.
However, don't get mad at the 45 yo menopausal sedentary female with a wrecked metabolism from years of starvation dieting (or yo-yoing) if she finds that she needs to count calories in order to lose.
We are all different in that respect; some never need to count calories and some find they do, especially as they get closer to goal weight.
When it comes down to it, Dr. Atkins never said
calories don't count. What he did say was that the majority of people would find that it's not necessary to count calories to lose weight on the Atkins plan and then followed it with the caveat that the metabolic advantage of low carb was not be used as a license to make a pig of yourself and eat everything low carb in sight. "Eat until
satisfied, not
stuffed." was his motto.
I have read many of the studies that you refer to and you might want to go back and review them again. In most cases, the caloric difference between groups was 600 or less and all groups were below 2,000 calories a day intake in the studies. Granted, being able to lose equal or more weight on 300-600 calories per day more than on a low fat diet is certainly a bonus, but it's a far cry from what you're describing, you lucky boy, you.

I don't know of any studies that showed a person can consume 4,000 calories a day as a rule and lose weight on low carb.