I know you are not telling me what to do and I am grateful for the advise,,,we all need to be better informed,,,,,,,, she wont drink regualr full cream milk now,,,,, from when she was little and started on cows milk and not breast milk,,,well,,,the doctors told me that she was a little `tubby` and so i was best to introduce a low fat milk like `skim` now (they said its as high in calcium for her) So guess what? I took their advice and now thats all she will drink ( remember 6 years ago it was all about the fat!)

I dont know what I can do for her,,,,, normal menu for her is breakfast is weetbix with skim milk and glass of juice,,,,,, lunch is sandwich or a salad box i make,,, a yoghurt and maybe either an apple or cheese cut up (they have 2 meals at school remember) and a popper drink and dinner is what i eat,,,,,,, rarely do i make her potatos...... usually she has pasta and meat or meat and vegies (you know a good meal),,,glass of skim milk

Treats,,,,, she has ice cream once a week,,,, usually sugar free jelly,,,, on wednesdays she has a wagon wheel (you know the chocolate bar) after her swimming lessons,,,,,, and maybe take away like mcdonalds once maybe every couple of weeks or so...........
We do not have chocolate in the house,,,or chips or lollies,,,,,, and she is not really into those anyway.....

she is 6 and a half and weighs 33 kilo last check.......

BTW- she does swimming, indoor soccer and karate every week,,,,,,,, I keep her active.....

I dont know,,am i missing something and doing something wrong??? I dont make a fuss to her about anything with her weight,,,and I never say ``if you eat that you will get fat``

I think her height is 125 cm,,but dont quote me on that! but it would be very close to that height.

Sorry to rattle on,,,, but i needed to vent and seek advice as to what to do or not to do and you seem a great person to ask...

Rachael

and she is never sick either....... usual a cold in winter and change of season but it is very rare that she is sick.....

personally rachael, i think she eats fine. an occasional sweet or take away isn't going to make much difference and besides, she's growing and will likely change shape a fair bit before she hits her height. she's active and healthy, that's the main thing. her BMI based on the facts you provided says she's in the healthy range. she isn't eating loads of sugar. you could try getting her onto wholemeal pasta and other low GI foods but i wouldn't worry too much at this stage.

yeah,,,, we just got back from soccer,,,and i saw her running round and thought to myself,,,,``ok,, so she is solid looking,,,big deal!` but poor thing has a build like me and her dad! lol
I guess i dont want her to go through what i went through at school but then,,,,,, if she does,,,,well i am there for her anyway,,,,, and she is a great kid,,,,little moody,,, really funny but very loving

I just got to teach her to have very high self esteem.............. the rest should just fall into place

thanks sambalam.... I feel better now and am not gonna stress over it any more,,,,, just accept her for her,,,, like she accepts me for me...... i guess thats the key!

Rachael (over protective parent,,,,,sounding more like a vain fruit cake,,LOL)

no that's a great attitude, and one that she will love you for more when she is older. if she stays 'solid' well you can always start cutting back the carbs if she wants to, as you have been setting a healthy eating example for her already.

I know what you guys mean with the clothes shopping - all those nice (expensive) little botiques just dont cater for us non-annorexics. I dont even go into them - just makes me feel like a freak! Jacqui E, Brown Sugar, and Ojay are my favorite shops - they all go to 16 which is what I need.

Jordy - Dont worry about your little girl - as long as she's happy and healthy! I wouldn't push the issue unless she tells you she's unhappy.

Re: Clothes shopping...

You can get your revenge later when you reach your goal. Walk into these shops, try on heaps of clothes and take up the shop assistant's time for ages.. Then say their styles "aren't really you" and walk out :-)

They say that revenge is best served cold...

BTW rachael, your daughter being called fat, pushed over and punched at school is disgraceful and i hope some action was taken against the kid who did it. i was badly bullied at school, i feel for any child who gets harrassed.

yes action is being taken,,,, well..... I ended up taking the action to her mum and hoped she would be nice about it all,,, the little girls mum was nice and we are together making sure it does not happen again... nice to know some parents out there care! We have actually become friends and so have our kids,,,,go figure! LOL
Rachael

The school is now using our idea of how we coped with the situation and promoting other parents to be more involved with the bullies parents (if they so both agree) and its been very interesting to say the least..

Bullying is terrible... I was teased/bullied in high school and it was awful, my education suffered as a result (truancy) and I was truly at a very, very low point. I can understand why kids who are constantly teased just snap (Martin Bryant is a prime example).

I am very grateful that my son's school has a very active no-bullying policy, there is one boy in year 3 who was giving my son a hard time for a while and the teachers now make him stay in the office at lunch & recess - he has been a constant bully (to other kids as well as my own) and he has no social skills. However, I do feel sorry for any 8 year old who feels the need to punch up 5 year olds, I dread to think what his home life is like

Good on you for taking such great action, often kids who display unacceptable behaviour at school are only doing so because they think their parents can't find out. I hope she has been appropriately chastised by her mum.

I have a friend who home schools her kids (they are the WORST candidates for homeschooling, but there's nothing I can do about it!) but when her son is with other kids they tease him mercilessly, I think he needs a school environment to 'toughen him up' a bit, in that he has no idea how to socialise with kids who are not homeschooled. There is socialising when the homeschool groups get together, but it is always under the supervision of the parent, so it's not quite the same as a schoolyard environment. Her oldest son is INCAPABLE of taking turns with other kids, and can't understand how in a large group he sometimes misses out on things (I am a kids leader at church so I get to see this every week). I have no gripe with homeschooling per se, but this boy really IS lacking in many of the skills required to cope in a large group. Sigh. There's nothing I can do about it though, she is so overprotective she refuses to let him near a public school!

Anyway that is my gripe!

But good on you for going to the mum... stop the little monster in her tracks!

Katt

katt, i too was severely bullied as a child and it has a very long lasting impact on you. i'm still aware of it now, 20 years on.
i used to work in childcare, and i sincerely have to tell you that while i will never put my (future) kids in care full time, some kind of social interaction with other kids is very healthy. full time isn't ideal although i understand sometimes necessary. but some interaction is needed to make sure kids now how to handle life and the different situations. plus the example parents lead with (such as yours rachael good for you!!)

Thanks Guys for your input,,,, I was always the `bigger` girl at school but never got bullied (I had tough friends,,LOL) I hid behind my humor as a way of protecting myself and it sure worked for me! Even to this day,,,lol

Cheers Guys
Rachael