Thu, Sep-01-11, 05:59
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Senior Member
Posts: 3,819
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Plan: Atkins
Stats: 217/145/143
BF:
Progress: 97%
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I used to have horrible feelings of being fat when I was super-slim in my teens. It really limited my lifestyle, as I lived near the water, and friends would go waterskiing etc. but I was too self-conscious to take off my clothes. In my twenties, I did gain a little weight, and decided to go swimming to lose it. I had to absolutely force myself to go to the swimming pool initially, and felt dreadful waddling out on my fat legs (as I saw them then) under my swimming costume, but over time those feelings changed, until I was able to accept myself the way I was - big or small. It didn't affect my desire to achieve/maintain a healthy weight, but it brought me a lot more happiness and the ability to enjoy life to the full, including water-skiing.
I know this sounds like psycho-speak, but I once tried Cognitive Behaviour Therapy to combat inappropriate feelings, and it worked really well for me. I had to write down the automatic thoughts, then write down a rational response. This very quickly changed the way I thought and I stopped having the irrational thoughts in the first place. My irrational thoughts were nothing to do with my body-image, but here is an example of how the technique might work for that:
Thought: I am so fat and ugly and disgusting.
Rational response: I am a lot more than just overweight. I have a personality, a sense of humour, intelligence and am able to enjoy life. It would be great to lose weight and I can keep trying to find the best method, however, just because I am overweight, it doesn't mean I need to look ugly. I can make the most of my appearance so I still look attractive. I can choose clothes which flatter. I can avoid people who make unkind remarks which make me feel worse and choose to be around people who find me attractive. Anything can be disgusting when viewed from the wrong angle. I choose to view myself from a flattering angle, and see the nice things about myself.
I am not sure if that would help anyone, but the technique worked amazingly for me. I did write it all down though. Thinking it just isn't the same.
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