So I dumped my BF.....
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This is going to be really rambly and stuff, and sorry in advance for reading this, but it relates to Atkins.... so well... anyway.
Since I decided to get my life totally back together, which included losing weight, getting healthy, and getting my dream job, I have found that how I see myself has changed.
I guess it is because in many ways I have. I used to be rather insecure actually - thinking that ppl were pointing at me because I was fat, or knowing that if someone honked their horn it wouldn't be for me. So yes, huge self esteem problems. This steemed out of the disollution of my previous relationship just before I was to get married after a miscarriage.
Anyway, I went to my Doctor, he gave me Atkins....
Now, something strange has happened. From exercising all the time I feel better about myself. From losing weight I feel better about myself, and know that I can do anything. I have just got my dream job - I am feeling so confident and wonderful - I am on top of the world..... but the man.... he still sees me as the same person I was pre-Atkins. While I am still well above healthy weight, he still just says I am fat. eg. I recently went to a team sport muck around day to meet some people. And afterwards, my boyfriend said that he didn't want to come with me to this again because he was embarassed of me - because I was like a "blue ball of lard."
I have to admit, that at many times he has been very encouraging of my life changing efforts, but recently, as he has seen me get my dreams, and really be in control, he hasn't liked it, and I think he feels threatened. He has recently been bringing food he know I can't eat into the house, and offering it to me, wanting to go to places that has little I can eat, and just well, has been a right bastard about Atkins.
I feel pretty bad because I have walked away in the good times, while he was with me in the bad, but on some deeper level, I think he liked it when it was bad for me.
I always believed Atkins would change my life - my doctor even told me so - but I didn't think it would do on so many levels. I know I wouldn't have the blind determination to have got my dream job with my dream company if I didn't feel so great about myself - and feeling great about myself has come from all aspects of Atkins.... The exercise, the great food, and as a result of the first two, the weight loss.
Anyway - ramble off. Just needed to say it to ppl who I hope will understand a little better than my friends.
Fancy a man threatened by a diet. Sheesh.
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