I am not a man hater, by any means, but I asked several guy friends a question that got me a lot of open mouths and truthful answers. You ready? I asked them, If I was standing in front of them (appx 60lbs over weight, pear shape and told to be cute), and me, but slender, was next to me, which would they take? THe answer hurt, but they all said me as the more slender self. Even my 12 yr old son agreed. I didn't ask BF, I didn't want hurt feelings, mine!
My ex husband, I met when I was 100lbs over weight. He said he likes a bigger woman. Ok, but as I started to loose weight to be healther, and got to a healthy weight, he was trying to stuff chips and ice cream infront of me. When I got to my goal weight, we got our divorce. His second wife, was big, but he told her she was to big, so she lost weight and they got married (poor girl), years later, she did gain back and they divorced, she hated him. Now, my sister, who is 60lbs over weight and carries it all in her belly, wants to loose weight, she's living with him. He's doing everything in his power to keep her weight up. Why? Does he truly like the looks of a heavier woman? Or, could he be insecure and prefer a heavy woman hoping she would stay with him and expect less of him? I truly believe he is an insecure man. He is at worse, 30lbs over weight and loves womans's attention.
I don't believe all men that prefer heavier woman are insecure, I think many truly like the build of a heavier woman. Just a thought.
My present BF is about 30lbs over weight, carries it all in his belly and is sexier than any other man I have ever met. Truthfully, I don't want him to have wash board abbs, he looks human and healthy at his weight even with the extra padding on him. Maybe he's so darn sexy cause he doesn't see it, and he's just himself?
We humans are the only animals alive that worry about our weight. I've never seen my stud horse shun a mare because she was fat. My Mini Rex buck, actually prefers a larger doe, although he wont turn down any perty little gal. Why are most of the stars and models skinny little things? Why do we like the looks of them? I think the models look grossely skinny. I caught my BF staring at a gal in a bikini, i was shocked and was trying to see what he found so attractive. SHe was a rack of bones, no but, a small pudge on her belly, flat droopy boobs, yet he was staring! Later he told me that she was to skinny for his taste, but he still wants to look. Why?
So many questions, and many of us are not confadent about our bodies. I for one am not. I get men look at me and flirt with me(big boobs and small waist), and it feels great! But I look in the mirror and can't see why. I'm heavy and can't see why any man would flirt with me. BF does, he follows me around the house panting, lol! But he's in love with me, what happens when the rose colored glasses come off?
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