Oh this one is a hard one, but my counsellor wants me to make sure that I write down three things that I like about myself everyday. They can't be at all related to body or appearance.

It's supposed to get you to view yourself in a positive light and build your internal self-esteem (etc, etc, etc.)

Don't know if this is the best place to do this, as it's kinda personal - but I think that there are a lot of other people on here that might find some value in joining me.

So if anyone else is game, let me know - and then we'll go from there.

Here's an example:

Today I helped my son to make sure that he did get his tuckshop order that he forgot to pick up from the tuckshop. I stopped him crying and put a smile on his face - and also taught him that a lot of problems can be solved if you just take the time to try and work them out.

Good idea....can I join in?
today I went down a fraction of a lb....I got up earlier than usual to get things done, and when I put my makeup on, I will feel attractive.

Sure foxgluvs - but the point is we can't discuss the physical. Nothing about weight, looks etc. It's to get us to see the good inside of us and realise that we are more than just the sum of our parts!

I said it was going to be hard!

Oooooh sorry I totally missed the point.

Ok, that is a little more difficult!! lol

Here goes,
- I got up a little earlier to get things done and it felt great to get into control of my day from early on.
- I have spoken to a friend on the phone who was in tears because her brother is having a breakdown and I made her feel better.
- I am going later to see her brother to give him a hug and some verbal support

There....will that do?

I don't do this, but I have seen the value of it.

Every day, write down three things you are grateful for.

Every day.

You can't repeat.

They all work the same way--getting you to focus on the good side, rather than the limits and bad stuff. Looking for a gift instead of looking for a problem.

I suspect your therapist will want to work on your observations a bit--those are things you DID. Not quite the same as "things you like about yourself." I mean, if all you have to do is DO something, why not just write out three checks to charity and be done with it? So, in a reframe:

I am able to make a commitment and honor it by getting out of bed earlier.

I am sensitive to my son's feelings.

I am a gentle teacher and a good example to my children.

I am able to be with people in trouble and not shut them down or try to fix them or pretend the problems aren't serious.

And Fox, makeup is just icing. You're attractive without it, too. (Didn't check your age: I love Lincoln's statement--A man makes his own face after 40. Most of "attractive" is habitual expression, anyway.

Okay I want to join too!!!
I am a caring person.
I treat people kindly.
I am grateful.
Much Serenity
Tammie
PS it really is an inside job

I think I will give this a try too.

I am a compassionate person.
I complete what I start.
I am honest with myself about what I can do but try things I haven't managed yet.

Julie

Good thread.

Hmm.

• I'm good at keeping the apartment tidy and organized
• I'm good with my money; my Christmas shopping is done and I've kept myself out of debt.
• I have good control of my temper; I keep my cool around coworkers who drive me berzerk.

I am cheerful and bright even on the earliest morning.

I always have a smile for anyone, even when my world is dark.

I am intelligent and a great organiser!

(Feels kind of weird saying such positive things, I think I'm going to run out of things really quickly!)

This is a fantastic idea!! I want to join in too, we should do this everyday!!

1. I have a great job that I love, and I am good at it.
2. I have a great sense of humor and really use it!
3. I am having a great hair day, and it's a holiday!!!

That was harder than I thought!! How ironic is that?

The more the merrier - and it is quite sad how hard it is - isn't it!

I am very loving.
I am very affectionate (sounding like a dog now!)
I try to see the positive side of every situation!

I have a great job doing what I like.
I bought a house which I move into on Saturday and I am almost packed.
I am not in debt and all my bills are paid.

Have a great day all!

Julie

I love this!! It kind of bothers me that I have to think so hard!! Maybe that's the idea?? Us gals do need to realize that we are AWSOME!!
Mine for today are:
1. I make sacrifices for my kids, and I love doing it!! I got up at 3:30 to stand in line at the store so I could get my boys the one thing that they really, really want for Christmas.

2. I made my family homemade brownies this morning, even though I will never eat them!!

3. I am a very friendly person. I made the stressed out sales person laugh this morning!! She actually thanked me for making her laugh!!

Great thread and very hard to do!!!!!

Here goes:

1- I am a person of accountability...meaning I always do what I say I'm going to do!!

2- I look for the good in all people...before I look at the bad

3- I see the glass as half full.

This is a great post. I'm joining!

1- I treat everyone with unconditional positive regard

2-I like that I am conscientious of other's feelings

3-I respect my partner and love his flaws