Hi all.
Jaz---On your boss/review---I would come in calm, crisp and cool. WITH a detailed list of your accomplishments. Don't leave even the smallest one out. Read them aloud to her. keep your face/voice neutral but firm and confident. When you're done ask one question. "Why didn't I get the review I deserved?" Put the onus on her to answer. If her answer is vague, repeat the question. Hold eye contact with her. If she doesn't back off and offer to reassess your review, ask her if you can attach your list and your position on this to the review. She will probably say no, but it shows your commitment to your viewpoint. Then tell her simply and firmly that you feel she has done you a disservice, and you feel mismanaged. Then YOU end the meeting. Get up and leave, NOT In a huff, but in a confident exit.
Obviously you'll choose your own words, but my point is angry defensive employees put bosses on the defensive from the get go, and make them feel justified in their assessment, fair or not. Better to show your degree of confidence and the degree of your disappointment in her in a professional manner, in as few words as possible. Then let her sit with it.
Meantime, write up your own letter, attach your list, and keep it in your own file--which BTW if you aren't already, I would start now, listing every poor management call this woman makes. Again, don't leave out any of them from this day forward. Date every notation. Then if you ever have to defend yourself to HR, or go to HR about her, you come loaded w/bear, with neat professional lists and plenty of examples. Then you just have to let it go, and hope she doesn't pull this on you again.
I've seen a lot of this in all the companies I've worked for, and talked to many an employee who has had to face what you have and I've learned a lot listening to their experiences, what worked and what didn't. Not to mention a couple of my own experiences from way back when I was on staff. Good luck, girl.
Trigger---OMG, I am thrilled to the freaking gills that the pork chop is moving up his retirement. That is such good and happy news for you and your family. I loved the way you put this to him. Think many men can't express ideas like "depression," and don't see it in themselves. But you put it in away he could recognize. So many things open and new now for you guys, and betcha you'll get your old pork chop back! Looking forward to hearing about all your adventures.
Nic---Well, it really kind of stinks woe wise to have the Holidays come back and bite again in the middle of January. Glad it was happy and fun, but still, put you in a different mind set then you've been in for the whole month. I doubt those 2 days will "stick." 5 to 7 days on LC, and you'll be right back to where you were---knowing you, maybe even less. So most you've lost on your goals is less than a week.
Are you allowing yourself a treat night on any schedule at this point? If so, count it as that, and just hang tight till the next treat night. Bet you'll be losing again by end of next week!
Lori---Ugh, sounds like you've gotten hit by a couple bugs in close time. Hope you're feeling good again soon. SO glad you're back at Boot Camp. Agree w/Jaz that this is kind of your foundation for living healthy. Funny when you pull that out it can be like the game of Jenga, and everything comes down!
K-mom---I CANNOT thank you enough for your offer, ---your kindness warms my soggy little heart. Really don't know how we're going to systemize getting out of here as we just made this decision right before Hubby left. So upon his return we will make a chart---wish you were here to do it with us, as I suspect you're a very good chart maker.
Will keep your lovely offer in mind and see what we end up needing.
WOW, has it already been 5 and a half months since your last A-fib instance? That is so great. Seems the drugs may be slowing you down a bit. Wonder if you could ask your doc what you might do to minimize those effects?
Will start water again w/yesterday. Monday, 4/3. Tuesday, 3/3
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So I got thru the huge snow storm w/out the hubby. Kept our front walk, thru gate and to street open. 4 times out there shoveling it did the trick. I took 2 Aleeve's proactively before I began and not too sore today, although in my experience, it could be worse tomorrow, there's often a lag day between exertion and peak sore.
Got up at 7 this morning, cleaned off my car---which looked like a toy white car, big and clumsy, couldn't see an inch of it under the snow. THAT took some doing as I didn't shovel my car yesterday. Good news is I got out and off the curb fairly easily---so many on the block needed to be pushed out this morning---and parked around the corner for snow emergency plowing. Kind neighbor snow blew our sidewalks knowing hubby was gone. No small thing as we live on a corner lot w/LOTS of sidewalk.
Yes, we DO have a garage, and thank heavens hubby put his car in it before he left. Two cars to deal w/would have put me over the edge. Our garage is detached and at the way back of the house on the alley, and if you want to use it daily through out the winter it involves a ton of extra blowing and shoveling, including big driveway into it, and pathway to house---not to mention this area faces a park, which is lovely and great, but no one can see you back there so it doesn't feel safe to me in the night time. Love living in the city, but you have to be smart about it. Maybe I need a "Tiger Lady,"---y'know, that thing you can buy for safety where you spurt out claws when you need 'em. LOL, just can't help but think I'm the kind of gal this could back fire on.
On plan today, AND I finally have my word for the year. "Move!" Complete w/exclamation mark. Of course, it's somewhat literal, but it has many other meanings for me. As in, move physically, move forward, move on, move towards the different and the new, move down the scale, KEEP moving TOWARD better things. Energy begets energy, and I need to MOVE in many ways. Get myself going again.
I have been in sort of a daze since this big change in our life reared it's head, and my response has too often been too curl up on the sofa w/a book, or binge some series, and shut out the world. I need to "move" back into the game, and do what I can with that.