Tue, Jan-29-13, 16:59
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Senior Member
Posts: 1,728
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Plan: HFLC/IF
Stats: 218/176/140
BF:27%
Progress: 54%
Location: Houston area
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I had a friend in the eighties, who was in a bad marriage to a man who never hesitated to criticize her. On top of that she battled her weight incessantly. I was at her place, helping her clean out her closet one day. She said to me, I don't know if you notice, but I have no red in my wardrobe. I looked and it was true. Everything was muted tones, blue, green, purple, yellow. She also had nothing but dresses. She had a secretarial job downtown and was expected to dress nicely. She told me she never wanted to wear anything that brought attention to her when she entered a room. She was scrupulously punctual for the same reason. People look up when a latecomer walks in. The reason for the dresses was she never trusted her ability to match up outfits, so she never bought separates for work. She had jeans for casual wear, because everything goes with jeans. I felt so awful for her. She left the husband after eight years. That happened a year or two after the day I described. She has had boyfriends, some fine, but not marriage material and some not so good, but after all these years of trying to find a man who would be what she needed, she is finally in a happy marriage with a guy who loves her to bits. She is smaller but still not skinny but she is finally really happy.
I am unhappy with my flab but I don't hate my body. I could be taught to hate it but my husband isn't like that. He wants me to lose, but right now, is fighting his own stress demons and leaves my diet and body up to me. I hope you continue to grow until you learn to just live and be you, without the hatred.
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