Fri, Jan-09-09, 16:36
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Senior Member
Posts: 4,932
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Plan: Atkins
Stats: 225/143/155
BF:38%/21.4%/24.9%
Progress: 117%
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Wow, I would be so livid if my #1 support system at home turned out to be a saboteur. I'm lucky that when DH eats a piece of birthday cake (birthday cake being my most favorite food in the universe) he pretends to grimace and goes, "Don't worry, it really tastes like sh!t."...just to make me feel better sometimes.
I agree with some of the other posters. Either you two aren't on the same wavelength and he's buying you the tamales to make you happy, or he's feeling insecure about you changing without him. It was VERY hard for my friends to adjust to my smaller size, as I'd always been the token fat girl of our group. They didn't love me any more or any less, but some of the other girls all of a sudden felt competitive with me; before, they didn't need to worry about me garnering male attention. I was like the bloodhound in Lady and the Tramp: Old Reliable. While my girls were excited that I was happy and healthy, my confidence and newfound sexuality made them feel secretly threatened. Therefore, whenever we went out it started to be places I used to LOVE eating. Whenever they had parties, my favorite foods would always appear. They'd order food at happy hour before I got there, and it would be stuff I couldn't eat but used to adore. I'd get the whole, "You're getting too skinny" line at least once a week.
When I refused to bend to their issues, they finally let it go. The guys think I look awesome and they're proud of me. The girls no longer feel threatened...because I got married! Haha. No, really. They backed off when they realized I was NOT going to change my goals or myself because of their individual insecurities. I invited them to workout with me, to eat with me, and even passed along some LC wisdom. After five years, they don't even notice anymore. They've adjusted to the change and now I'm just "Amory" again, not "OMG you're so freaking skinny, you better stop losing weight Amory!"
Sidenote: And I'm NOT skinny at all. I'm a normal weight, and I still have flub like everyone else. However, going from obese to a normal weight DOES appear "skinny" to others when they're used to seeing you waddle, not run windsprints.
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