YEs, it is. But I think it's also an important one. And I'd like to add that of course you can be attractive at any weight. I struggle to see it myself, but I agree that personality makes one heck of a lot of difference, and many of my fat friends are among the biggest personalities I know. They are simply larger than life, opinionated, secure in themselves (After all, overcoming adversity is one way to build rock solid confidence), ultra fun to be with, ironic, funny, deep, I love my friends. Whatever the poundage. It's funny, but after I get to know someone, weight stops being an issue even in my mind, I see the person then.
I hate being prejudiced, judgmental, and the rational part of me sees no benefit to it at all, but it's hard to look at a random overweight person on the street, because I don't think to myself, oh, how beautiful, but more like, oh, I'm so sorry for her.
I'm sure this has mostly to do with my own self-hatred, but also the "thinspiration" we see all around us (yes, I know where the term comes from, it's still a perfectly descriptive one).
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