Hi, Everyone.
Thank you all for sharing your own insecurities. Your courage has helped me feel less self-critical about my own insecurities.
I got sick a few years ago (depression and severe anxiety) and put on some weight. I went from an athletic 123 pounds (at 5'4") to a curvier 140-145 pounds. I know that I am a healthy weight even if I cannot always see and believe it. Sadly, since the weight gain, I cannot bare to look at my naked body. Even when I twist and feel my body fat, it is all that I can do not to break down and cry. I definitely do not allow others to see my naked body.
My anxiety kept me virtually housebound for about 4 years. I only left the house for health-related appointments--and only ever with someone that I totally trusted, usually my mom. Two more years were spent being able to go out with increasing frequency, but very rarely by myself.
Thanks to homeopathy and a slew of other alternative medical modalities, my anxiety is mostly a thing of the past. Some days, I have a hard time going out, but I am mostly able to go out and about as desired.
For obvious reasons, I am delighted about my recovery and confidence of a full recovery. Regrettably, during my housebound years, I developed what I consider to be an unhealthy relationship to food. When I got bored, I ate. When I felt scared, I ate. I think that we can all see the pattern here. Fortunately, I usually ate healthy foods, but food still became an emotional crutch.
It took me about a year to notice that I had gained weight. Since that time, I have been obsessed with regaining my former weight. I tried Weight Watchers, raw vegan, juicing, low fat dieting, near starvation--if I could do it at home, I tried it. Since I started dieting, I have fluxuated from 130 to 145, though I did once dip down to around 125.
I really want to lose the weight (even though I am a "healthy" weight, I feel that I am heavier than *my body's* ideal weight), but I want to do it in a healthy way and for the right reasons. I consider my renewed health to be a precious gift. I do not wish to sacrifice it.
I feel ashamed to admit that even though I now can go out most of the time, I do not always want to. I feel afraid of seeing friends who knew me before I gained the weight. My nickname (among my male friends, at least) used to be BB--short for Beautiful Body. I think that I worry that my physical appearance is all that they saw then and all that they will be able to see now.
I am dedicated to dropping all of my extra weight, including my pounds of pain. I am an amazing person. We all are. I am just looking forward to the time when I will feel right in my own skin and allow myself to see myself clearly and allow others to really see and touch me. I want to open myself up to the bright and beautiful world, not hide myself in the dark cave of my fears and anxieties.
Thank you all for reading this. I am grateful to have been able to share my feelings with people who are going through similar experiences.
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