Lisa, tried to PM you but this was too long.
Well, my situation was a bit different with my son being that he had that wide oral cleft. BUT.... after we switched to an experimental nipple 10 weeks later, he was a "super feeder" much like your son.
You say that you are using the Avent bottles with the slow nipple, that is good. I have heard good things about them too and when I start pumping when I go back to work, I will be having my husband use those too.
Ok, back to the point.....
My son was an OFF THE CHART CLOLICY BABY. I was trapped in my house and could not go anywhere after 4pm. His colic screaming would stop at 9am. He would pull up his legs, tense his entire body and let out this god awful scream as if his intestines were about to perforate. I had him on enfamil nutramigen (sp) which is an expensive hypoallergenic formula that costs serious bucks. Did not really help him that much but I was desperate. (he had the same symptoms on breast mild too) This lasted about 7 months (longer than average). The screaming sessions gradually became shorter and shorter.
My sons pediatrition prescribed him belladonna/phenobarbitol elixer. (a barbituate)--yes he was that bad. I have to say that this did not really help either. I dont really reccomend this.
So what did help?????
I changed the way I burped him. I sat him on my knee and leaned him forward like this / with my dominant hand supporting his chest. Then I gently bounced my knee and gently giggeled him back and fourth. I could feel the air bubbles make their way to the top of his tummy and I could literally feel his body decompress as he burped. You will hear the stomach contents "sloshing around" if there is too much air in there. I realize that my son was exceptionally prone to swallowing air, but I think that makes me an expert on burping babies
Have you tried changing formulas?
Know that somtimes babies just cry for no apparent reason..........
Somtimes when you have HAD IT, it is best to put the baby in his bouncer seat and put him in the corner of the room (make sure he is safe) and for you to go to the other corner of the room and for you both to scream and cry. (with soft music on in the background to calm you both). I fully understand how some mothers reach the breaking point and bad things happen
If you ever get there, just remember what i said here)
Oh and just an FYI, colicy/cranky infants often turn out to be exceptionally intellegent. They say that somtimes when they cry and cry it is out of frustration and an inability to communicate their complex feelings. They are more perceptive to others feelings and moods. More intelligent than your average child. I tried to take this little nugget of knowledge as a seed of hope knowing that everything will work out and that he would be fine in the end.
As it turns out my off the chart colicy little man is a very bright child. He has always tested in the 90th percentile for IQ at the specialty clinic (they monitored him closley in the beginning for any developmental disabilities). His first word(s) were "Im hungry" when he was about a year and was speaking in clear full sentences when he just turned two. He is reading at two grade levels above his classmates and excells at everything else. (I really did not have any part in that as he always had a natural interest in learning)
What I am trying to say is that what started out as a rough beginning turned out to be a real blessing. He is a great kid, although still the living embodyment of the immiture little boy at times.
But hey, he is 8, what should I expect
Oh an about the lochia, I have total amnesia about lochia. I remember wearing pads afterwords but nothing else so cant help there.........
Take care of yourself....