since being on this board, I feel as if I've gotten rid of most of the vestiges of my ED (and am dealing with the underlying core issues that gave birth to it in my childhood). I've also found certain specific practices helpful.
- stay off the "stalls" board and away from that mentality, too. We lose weight how we lose weight. Let that be. (As the 12-step folks say, "let go and let god")
- staying off the scale for weeks at a time (forever would be ideal!)
- switching my focus to how I feel, not even size or body fat (which are better than the scale, at least--good interim mindsets for me)
- reading body image books and "fat liberation" books (like
Fat?!So?) Even if I'm smaller than the intended audience of those books, the messages are still truthful and useful to me...and help me be more positive with my fat friends.
- limiting my exposure to mass media images of deathly skinny women and instead looking at the women walking down the street (who look nothing like Calista or Hallie, interestingly enough)
- being grateful for my body. Writing about that gratitude.
- raising my goal weight when it became clear that I'm not going to weigh 150 ever again (gods willing--if I am dying of a horrible disease I guess I might)
I'm still a work in progress (who isn't?
) If any of these approaches help any one else, that'd be a bonus to posting them.