I was not a heavy child so I haven't walked in those shoes! Yes, I am obese now but it is different when a person starts life off thin and stays thin most of their life and then gains weight. You see yourself in your minds eye as thin. I wish I could give that to you and all the others who grew up as a heavy child, I can't. But, I can give you this.

A long time ago I learned something that has helped me in a lot of areas of my life. I learned that I can go to a safe place. When there, I can Do, Say, Be, or invite in anyone I want any time I want.

The way you do this is to first think about a place in your life that you loved to go to and spend time. Mine was my grandmother's home.

Then you close your eyes and go there, and survey the area to find your perfect spot to build your place to go to anytime you want. Mine is on a hill top beside my grandmother's home.

Then you pick what you want to build your place out of (wood, bricks, glass, whatever you can imagine) and start building it in your mind, (board by board or brick by brick or drop by drop). It can take days or minuets to do this, you decide. Once your place is built you can furnish it any way you want and you can be there alone or invite anyone in you want. You can be any size you want or as young or old as you want. What ever you can think of that makes you happy and at peace you can have.

Once you are through building, you can close your eyes and go there at Any time. It’s all free except for TIME, it’s your time, take as much or as little as you need everyday until you see yourself in you minds eye as the person you want to be.

I hope you try this and someday soon you’ll understand the gift I have given you is truly a gift.


Hugs,
Charlie

I agree, I've had 2 for years, one of them I go to when I've had enough of people- It's totally isolated and I see no-one.

If I feel I'm getting a bit introverted and antisocial I go to my other house, it's in a busy city and has fabulous views.
I go there as I'm drifting off to sleep, and put my (imaginary)day into words as if I'm writing a diary. By doing this I can forget the lousiest day and sleep well.

I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one. Thank you for sharing with me, miniblue.

Charlie