If mine had said that I would start making plans to leave him. Im sorry but you gained the weight through pregnancy...you didnt get pregnant on your own. Next time he points out a girl you need to look like..I would point out some hot guy..
If you were really want to piss him off..tell him his "junk"never impressed you but you made do. LOL

I have been reading this thread and it saddens me to think you may be dealing with this, it's a long read, but if you need some books to help you with your responses to his ignorance I have some suggestions of books and responses I use when I come in contact with one:

narcissist exhibits pervasive grandiosity -- sometimes through
behavior, sometimes in fantasy. A narcissist needs to be admired and shows little or no empathy or concern for the problems, difficulties, or even the interests, of other people.

Narcissists hold (perhaps "embrace" would be a better term) an exaggerated sense of self-importance. They overrate the significance of their achievements and talents. And they expect to receive accolades for what they believe are outstanding personal attributes and accomplishments. They tend to be totally absorbed in fantasies of success, power, brilliance, beauty, and other achievements and qualities. They believe they are special; as a result, they believe they can only be understood and appreciated by people who are -- or organizations that are -- also special.

Consequently, narcissists have unreasonable expectations of people and situations. They feel they are entitled to favorable treatment and unquestioning compliance with their hopes and expectations. Other people are supposed to acquiesce to their wishes.

Further, they exploit friends, acquaintances, and associates, taking advantage of others to secure their own desires. They tend to be haughty and arrogant, convinced that others are, or should be, envious of them.

While every narcissist does not display each and every one of these characteristics, every narcissist exhibits enough of them to be difficult to deal with.

Despite the difficulties, from time to time we all find ourselves having to interact with a person who is afflicted with narcissism. It may be a member of the family, a neighbor, someone with whom we work, or someone we dearly love. In cases where we must deal with them, it is a good idea to understand how best to do so

If you identify with any of these talk to your therapist as well about how to deal with this type of behaviour and the possibility that your husband may be a narcissist. just IMHO from what I have read. Happy day to you - you are beautiful no matter what, it's YOU that's makes you that way.

These ladies have already taken the words out of my mouth. I could feel my blood pressure rising as I read your posts. His behavior is absolutely apalling and shameful. You've worked so hard and deserve to be loved for who you are and all you do.

Your accomplishments thus far are impressive! And your dedication ..to EVERYTHING...including him is amazing.

I hope it all works out for you! Best wishes.

Seems to me that he's actually quite intimidated by your weight loss. The fear is probably that you'll realize how attractive you really are and leave him. Even though that might never cross your mind it might his. I hope that you've gotten this all straightened out and it's old news.