A lot of people who are lean are not free of addiction and binge eating. They are simply lean. They often have no particular resistance to crappy food themselves, it's merely that if they are not trying to lose weight, nobody pays attention to that. So the idea that a lean housemate might not understand someone really trying to kick a carb addiction is not always the case. Often they don't understand it merely because they aren't bothering themselves, so they don't care.
Sometimes they feel a little guilty for eating badly which they know they do, and want someone else to share it so they feel less guilty. Kind of like how people always seem to want you to drink or get high if they're doing so.
I believe it is the responsibility of a mate to do everything they reasonably can to support the genuine needs and wants of the other. If this means that you buy a shelf or cupboard for the back room you never enter and she puts all her junk there (obviously it really needs to be a place you don't go and don't even see it and can avoid), then that's what it means. Will not hurt her, she should be willing to assist.
I think she should be willing to try eating what you do and only eating other stuff outside the home, away from you, or hidden away somewhere. But, you guys have whatever relationship you have, and I hope she'll at least agree to segregate the food.
I have a lot of stepfamily with diabetes, and the idea that spouses and families merely don't help dieters is mistaken. I see people die off one eyeball and foot and vital organ and heart attack and cancer at a time because their family feels like their eating problems are their own problem. The family chooses to stuff their house with high-carb sugar-infested stuff that not only would take the perfect-eating-plan and resistance of a saint to refuse 100% of the time, but often they even expect the diabetic spouse or dieter to be cooking it all for them! Holiday dinners are the worst. And then they get amputated and surgeried and eventually die horribly. "Sorry Martha! Your eating problems were your own problem. I'm raising the kids without you now!" I detest these people. I used to go to family gatherings and just sit there thinking, "Don't talk to me. You helped murder your wife, you inconsiderate boor. Bet she really liked the torture of losing her legs 8 inches at a time and going blind for a few years first." People being bloody inconsiderate of those they are supposed to love when it comes to food is surprisingly non-rare, even when it is literally a life and death situation.
I think having a house that is low-carb if you are low-carb, at least until or unless you are totally cool with it otherwise, is very important.
The real problem is that these foods people slip up on, it's not like they ate too much almond butter. If you eat something that contains any kind of grain, msg, or some other ingredients, it may have neurological effects on you that last for days, and often actually don't kick in for days, so you don't realize that your total cave on Wednesday afternoon is because of something you sneaked Monday night.
When people go low-carb, one of the things they learn is that "just one bite really can hurt you," compared to the calorie counting approach, the carb counting approach is pretty different. But when you start reading about how food affects your brain, your organs, you start realizing that "one bite" can actually affect you very insidiously, subtly, and for DAYS. This makes keeping the 'bad stuff' off your radar even more important.
I hope it works out well for you guys.
PJ
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