This has been an incredible thread, because I think this subject is do close to everyone. A while back I had put in my journal, why is it that some people succeed at this, while other fail. Unfortunately I still don't know the answer to that.
If I can make a couple of generalizations here. People that I see succeeding are people that are diligent in their choosen WOE, they are very particular about what they eat, how much they eat, etc.. The people that seem to fail, or at least have stopped doing this for awhile, it all seemed to start with ONE cheat.
From personal experience I can tell you that the worst thing that can happen on this woe or any other for that matter, is to go off plan, and not have a negative consequence. Because that may lead to a bigger cheat or more cheats. How many of us have said, oh I ate __________, and I didn't gain anything, or I even lost a pound or two. We are all human, and when we are reinforced that eating off plan doesn't result in something bad, than we are more apt to do it again.
The way I took Harvey's comments are someone who is passionate about staying on his woe, and thinks it is best that others do the same. Now I will be the first to admit that he may not have choosen all of the correct words, but IMHO, I don't think he is being malicious.
Having said all of that, I have cheated, not regularly, and not often, but I have. Although some of it is enjoyable, I do worry all the time, is this going to lead to another cheat, or a bigger cheat. I think because it is always on my mind, that I am consciencous that it could lead to something more, helps to keep me contained.
Others have posted that cheating is much like many other things in life, there are some that are going to be able to do it with no consequences, some who can't do it, and some that are in the middle. That what make it interesting, to see everyone's opinions.
I would ask one more question than what everyone else is debating, when you do cheat, does failing at this woe, ever enter into your thought process?
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