Leanna,
I liked my last therapist and felt very comfortable with him. I was candid and honest with him in a way I've never been, but like I said I didn't feel it was all that helpful in terms of sitting around and talking about problems doesn't really solve anything. I can sit around and talk about sh*t and analyse it till the cows come home and it doesn't accomplish anything - change, resolution, etc.
I haven't spoken to Marcy since the surgery, but I will call to check up on her today. I feel like a terrible person for allowing my own jealousy and insecurity interfere with my concern for her health and well being. I need to put those feelings aside.
UPDATE about the boy. He showed up at my friend's party last nite. Christina was having a house warming party and I was playing co-hostess since she's been having back problems. I was in the kitchen preparing food, making sure everyone had drinks, etc. He was there early and got to see me in full on Suzy Homemaker mode. We talked for a bit, he asked me about work/school, etc. We talked about his latest project, small talk. It was all fine and dandy. We kissed, we hugged hello sort of when he walked in. I my hands full of something edible that I was putting on a tray, so I couldn't do it but he did and wrapped his arms around me anyway. He made the effort, that must mean something, right?
Oh, what a fool believes!! We, women love to read too much into small, little things.
When he was leaving, I decided to be bolder and more confident than usual and ask him what the deal was with us. We were in an open space, but we were close together and no one was around. He said, "Not tonite." And I laughed, "Yeah add it to the long list of excuses, blah, blah."
We laughed and hugged for a bit and he held me to his legs, "Feel that?" he asked. His crotch/pocket was vibrating. I laughed, "That's the most action I've gotten from you ever!" and I made another comment about us. I was buzzed from several drinks, to the effect of, "We need to do this while I'm still young or we're never going to hook up." And he said, "And yet you're still entertaining the idea that it's going to happen."
I nearly swallowed my tongue. Thank god for my quick wit, because I replied, "More like ENTERTAINED, dear." But seriously my heart stopped and I felt like I had been punched in the stomach.
What could I say? I felt like such a fool! All this time, it's all been a joke. The months of flirting, etc. Apparently it's all been this thing inside MY head. He was never really interested in me, it's all been a game. It was all a lie.
I said goodbye to a few other guests leaving and he and I didn't kiss and hug again like we always do. He said, I think almost bitingly, "Well have a good time." And I smiled, "I always do."
I cleaned up Christina's place, took out the trash, etc. and tidied up a bit and about 45 minutes later I left. I had to be at work at 7am this morning, so I had planned to leave about midnite. It took every effort not to cry as I was cleaning up.
I made it to my car before I burst into tears. As I drove home I kept thinking, what did I do wrong? I felt like Cher in "Clueless" - "Did I step into some bad lighting?"
I replayed the past year since he first came on to me..... I was too aggressive, not aggressive enough, I was too opinated, too smart, too mouthy, too talkative, not thin enough, not pretty enough, etc.....
I don't know. Everytime I would think I was over him, this little THING whatever I THOUGHT it was, he would lure me back in, but this? This was the final breaking point. He could have hit me over the head with a baseball bat to make it more clear. I think he was as kind as he could be about letting me down. What else could he do? Get this bitch off my jock!
So that was my Saturday nite and now I'm at work for a few hours bright and early Sunday morning. Hope you all had a better weekend than me!