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Originally Posted by potatofree
Not weird, since I think I understand a bit... do you mean if he's "choosy" and won't look at anyone who isn't beautiful, but he chooses YOU, that makes you good enough?
The only problems I see is that somewhere along the line you've become convinced you're somehow "less than".
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Thank you to everyone for offering input, advice, words of wisdom. I am in desperate need of them right now. I'm freefalling and not in a good way.
PotatoFree said a mouthful, if he chooses me then I MUST somehow be "worthy". That's been the carrot dangling in front of my nose my whole life. To be good enough. Falling short is the usual for me, its my safe haven.
By not being what I really want to be, by fearing change, by not aspiring to be MORE than I currently am, I choose to stay exactly where I am. I've wanted the implants since I was 15. I envision myself as someone else, in my dreams I always am someone else. If I don't get the surgery and improve myself in the physical being than I am accepting failure and letting myself remain in that category of self defeat. I always say, you can either choose to make a difference and stop complaining or stay and wallow in misery. I am immobile.
I saw the boy I like on Friday. After several months of us flirting and his becoming more and more aggressive, nothing has happened. He makes suggestions, innuendos, overtures. He continues to "use" me as his ego stroke, while he actively pursues other women. I've seen now how he acts when he actually likes someone, and needless to say, it's not me. She = the nondescript brunette in tacky red shoes. I have come to this conclusion - we are friends and we are most likely to remain that way. It's probably for the best anyway. And truth be told, I never really expected anything to ever happen anyway.
But the realisation made me sick. I guess, heartsick. I was in bed all weekend. And then I stayed home yesterday from work and stayed in bed all day too. I didn't work out, I didn't eat, I couldn't move. With him in my life, I have a motivation, someone to work towards - yes, Potato, if I was "enough" I would be that girl he actively pursues instead of the one he simply uses to bolster his esteem. Without him, I am adrift....
The good thing is I've lost two lbs.!!!