Quote-"I'm thinking I'm gonna go nuts if I actually make it to something crazy like 130 lbs. I'm gonna dye my hair blonde, wear real jeans. Be an extrovert. Nothing wrong with that, right? Well I see there is. I just want to lose weight. I don't want to change."
Sorry but life is change and this is a change for the best. I sometimes have to remember that I CAN be more social. I tend to still try to keep to myself and stay away from social events. I am still socially awkward but I'm working on it. I am still the same bubbly person I was before but now I move more, I don't just sit there and wish that my head wasn't attached to my body when someone turns to look at me. I walk up to people, I initiate conversations now, I even look at men and though they still aren't quite staring my way just yet, I have had a few positive glances my way. I am trying new things.
I remember crying on the phone with my sister when I realized that doing low carb would mean that I would not be able to bake like I was. I was getting really good at baking and I had this fantasy that my daughter would grow up and tell everyone how I baked for her all the time and how good of a mother I was. MY sister told me, "Maybe when you lose the weight, you'll focus on something else, maybe instead of baking, you'll have new hobbies." I thought about it and I knew she was right but I really couldn't see it. Now you can't get me in the kitchen!!!
Like today, my friend called me up and said, "Hey, would you like to go to the lake." I said, "We're in a pj's just relaxing and watching t.v.-(which is what we used to everyday but now its just on Sunday). She told me she was heading to my house and for me to hurry and get dressed and she took us out to someplace we'd never been, a lake with a beach and I watched my daughter swim. We talked about several things and planned on coming back for the holidays to bbq and for our kids to swim. The last cookout I was at was with my sister's friends nearly 2 yrs ago. It was horrible. I was the fattest person there and no one spoke to me, not even my sister and her husband. I just sat by the food, what a lovely picture hunh, a fat person by the food! So, I faked being sick so she would take me home, leaving my daughter to play with her cousins. My sister knew what I was doing too, because I would do similiar things to get out of being around other people, because I knew that I just stood out like a sour thumb and I had nothing to say to them. They were all married or with a significant other and I have been single my entire life with a child, no other relationships, I am socially in-ept and after a few minutes of speaking to me, there was nothing else for me to say.
So, now I am planning on going on a bbq with my friend and her daughter, I may even get into the water with my dd, just to have a good time, something I would never have done before because even if people didn't stare at me, which is what they often did, I would feel like they were. Now I know that I don't stand out, so no one cares. I am 30 yrs old and I am having experiences I should've had when I was that lonely teenager who kept to themselves in their own world because I had no friends, I couldn't relate to anyone else, and I was overweight.
Every experience I have I am learning more and I am becoming more sociable and I would never want to return to the reclusive person I was just 1 1/2 yrs ago.
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