Tue, Aug-05-03, 18:14
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Originally Posted by randisue
Welcome Just Me,
I will give you one more challenge. I don't know your whole story but I ask that you would read what God says about divorce. (Look up divorce in your concordance) You know He's a God of miracles, so read and trust him for what He says in His Word.
Again, welcome.
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I don't need that challenge randisue, as you are correct, you don't know my whole story. Do not take that the wrong way, but don't assume I haven't looked up divorce either! This is NOT something to be taken lightly by ANYONE, Christian or non-believing. I may have only VERBALLY acknowledge my Savior last summer to be Born Again in that sense, but I have been a Christian all my life while living a Christian life.
I almost divorced this man after 9 years of marriage, but tried again, as I believe in the institution of marriage and really tried to work this out. I've been through the bible on it, as well as taken in MUCH guidance from fellow Christians, pastors, etc. I've been through all the adultery passages that would play into it as well. Oh, I've been paining over this, as well as praying for clarity and discernment all these last 8 years when it finally fell apart, or I would have simply 'divorced' quickly back then. No, this is NOT a frivolous decision on my part! I haven't dated, or 'otherwise', as I set the example for my daughter to follow. I will not be like many of her classmate's mothers who change boyfriends monthly. No. Not only am I an example for her, but I'm an example for those little girls who's mothers are out and about. They can see that a woman can abstain without it appearing 'dull' or 'scary' without a man!
I've seen and heard how many people will jump right into 1 Corinthians 7 as their escape hatch ... but in my case, I only came upon this passage after already living under these circumstances for 15 years. STILL, I struggled with coming to terms with it. But this is the passage that does explain my personal decision in knowing that divorce is the CORRECT choice for me:
"13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace."
This man has made NO ATTEMPT to come back here, not even to see his daughter. Instead we've arranged a 'drop-off' point halfway between his state and mine at my mother's. It's not even about the weight I put on, AFTER the separation, it's about the crack in God that separated us. No, this marriage is one to be discarded as broken due to the lack of God Himself!
Does Jesus state that he does not like divorce? Oh yes, quite vocally, but, he also realized, IMO, that there were times for it and he gave strict guidelines for it, or why would he give guidelines to begin with? Not every story has a happy ending, nor does every marriage need saving when it does NOT honor God with it's union!
With that said, I do look forward to a Christian marriage one day where I can be a shining example to someone struggling to create one of their own out of ashes.
Only God knows what's in our hearts, and how we really tried to make things work. Obviously, if I have been married this long, there's much more to my story than meets the eye, with military deployments involved, and I'll leave it at that.
Last edited by Just Me : Tue, Aug-05-03 at 18:19.
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