There are, of course, ways to "convert" the reluctant. They are immoral, of course, but they do work.
The "ultimatum" technique - do this, or else! - though long beloved of therapists, advice columnists, and daytime talk shows, it has mixed results, invites cheating, but is sometimes effective, especially when multiple loved ones / and or family are involved. Recruiting a forsaken lover or current lust-object to the team can dramatically enhance short-term results. Works best when the victim (um, convert) has an IQ between 75 and 110.
The "love bombing" technique involves isolating the victim (um, convert) and showering her with a barrage of sappy emotional appeals - the more people, and the more rehearsed/eloquent the appeals, the better. It helps to cloak oneself in religious piety (waving bibles around, etc.) Loud, rhythmic music, sleep deprivation, and repeated physical contact increase the impact of the appeals. Problem: this will ruin a weekend faster than a nuke can wreck the shopping mall.
The "contra" technique involves adopting a behavior contrary that which is desired, letting that contrary behavior "destroy" you (your dreams, hopes, family, whatever), and place your friend in the position of "saving" you: she would have to adopt the desired behavior in order to save you. This is risky, and needs planning, skill and timing to execute, but in the long term can be the most effective of all, since she will think she came up with the rescue idea, and hence, will buy into it quickly. Works best when the victim (um, convert) has a caring nature and an IQ between 110 and 135 - too smart, and she'll bust you; too dumb, and she won't get it.
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The most moral option, of course, is the "exemplary" one: adopt the desired behavior yourself, and let is shine forth: quietly, and persistently, in a low-key way. This is twisted, difficult, frustrating, and unsexy - but it works, is morally sound, and will let you sleep at night unashamed of the day. You may have noticed this already.
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