I have to start with: It's not all his fault. I put the food in my mouth.

Hubby made, from scratch, pizza. What goes good with pizza? Beer. I love my hubby, but he insists on having ice cream, pizza, mac n cheese, and everything else I can't have in the house. He tries to semi-follow the LC, but he doesn't need to. So, in comes the crap I can't have. I am pretty proud of myself for not eating all the other stuff. I tried to plan ahead and have sugar free jello ready, and other snacks, but I couldn't resist the pizza, and beer. Grrr....

Again, I know it's not his fault, and if I told him to stop buying the food I can't have he would. Besides in the real world temptation is out there. At home or otherwise, so in the end it's up to me to stop and say, "this one bite will lead to destruction!" (queue dramatic music). I just had to get this off my chest. Thank you.

I'm a little confused because you first say that he insists on bringing the food into the house. Does he know that you don't want it there? Then you say that if you told him to stop buying it, he would. Have you told him how you feel and asked/told him to stop?

If he's semi-into LC and willing to listen just talk to him. You keep saying it's not his fault. Don't blame yourself either. We all have slip ups and the worse thing you could do would be to retreat and give up. I think the best thing you could have done would be exactly what you did - come here and vent.

He know's I've had a problem with will power, but instead of saying "please don't buy that" I say, "I can't have that." I probably should be less elusive and plainly say "don't buy that"

I was mad at him and wanted to voice my opinion without starting an argument at home. He'd be hurt I didn't say anything sooner, and I'm thinking he should've figured it out on his own.

I need to just tell him what I'm thinking when I think it. It drives him nuts that I bottle my feelings up, that's what led to my eating problem since I was little.

Huh....I was really just trying to vent out a situation, but as I'm looking at what I'm writing I see an old habit rearing it's ugly head. This wasn't about the food. It was an experiance to help me see how I still haven't been able to trust others with how I feel. I was always afraid people would be mad at me, or leave because how I think or feel will upset them. That's what let to my compusive eating.

I love this forum. Being able to get things out and look at them with other people who go through the same things is really healing. I know it won't be easy, but I need to be honest (with tact) and turn my fear of my own feelings into exceptance.

Isn't it terrific that we can come here and say how we feel? Things we find so hard to say to our loved ones, we can say here...we're all in the same boat!

I really relate to how you are feeling. My husband is beautifully lean, can eat whatever he wants (mind you, he has ALWAYS eaten in moderation...good on him!). I don't want him to restrict his food choices, but having certain foods in the house just KILLS ME. I will eventually lose all control and just pig pig pig right out.

What worked for me was to have a very calm conversation with my husband (when there was no food around, ha ha!) and I told him how I felt...that I wanted him to enjoy the foods he wanted, but that I knew I would succumb...I am an addict! He was so sweet and supportive...he keeps his high carb treats at work, occasionally goes out for a fast food indulgence, and otherwise low carbs it at home with me. Maybe you can work something out too...be honest, don't be ashamed or embarassed to ask for what you need. The ones who love you will always help you!