I am changing, but people generally have told me that I am happier, I laugh more, and I seem like I am a bit more social, not the opposite! :P I am making it a point to figure out exactly WHO I am, because I really don't know.....When I was young and thinner, I hid behind any number of things, activities, shutting up, stuff like that. Then, I hid behind my fat, and I was really a nobody, no one really looked at me, it was safe. Now, well, I am making more decisions based solely on how I think and feel, not what other people want. The funny thing about it is, when faced with a decision, even something like what radio station to listen to, I actually stop for a moment and ask myself, "Do I really want to listen to this/do this/say this? Is this something I'm putting up with because someone else wants it and I'm giving in? Do I want to say something about it?" I do this even when I'm ALONE! It kind of shocks me sometimes, that I am so trained to let eveyone else have their way, that I can't pick out music/groceries/activities, that I like, just for the sake that it's my own preference.
That's where I am in my process. Maybe he's so used to getting his own way all the time, he just assumes I like everything he likes/thinks/says, and he's so shocked that I have an opinion, he thinks any disagreement is arrogance/coldness....well.....too bad, I guess.
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